[tri-wings] Re: Kay




----- Original Message -----
From: "Demi Powell" <demipowell@xxxxxxxxxxx>


>>> Dear Kay
 First of all, Im so sorry about Donna's pregnancy.  The poor thing must be
 sorely disappointed.  I remember when I got pregnant (despite being
horrified) I finally thought something was going to go right for me, AT
LAST.  I thought, even if my boyfriend does leave I will still have my
 perfect little baby and nothing can touch us.<<<

Dear Demi - thank you so much for your e mail.  Yes, she is heartbroken that
the prospects look so bleak right now.  She also thought that  something was
going to go right with her and now this !!  You summed up what I think she
felt about boyfriend leaving etc.,  I could also relate to her but she
doesnt really want me to to be honest with you.  I felt that way too, that
if Raul left, I would have his baby still.

>>PHHHHHHHTTTTTTTT!  Wrong again!  It just felt like a kick in the face, but
a
 really bad one.  Of course things always go wrong in my life, that is the
way it is, but I really felt it was unfair to have taken my bad luck (or
whatever) out on my baby.>>

That is also how she feels, like she has had a kick in the face and that
everything goes wrong in her life.  She said to me the other day "Well it is
me isnt it?" - really chokes me that I cant make everything alright for her.


>> Right now DOnna will be feeling exactly the same.  We ALWAYS take it out
on
 those closest to us, in this case its you and her boyf.  Because her
boyfriend can run off at the drop of a hat, its left to you.  (By the way,
what the HELL was he doing going to the PUB at a time like this! She really
 does need to get rid of him.)>>

Guess so, (taking it out on the closest etc.,) - I was annoyed with him too
for saying he was going down the pub !! that was when she started shouting
at him and I told her off and she started to shout at me. I cant cope with
this on top of everything else right now.


>> I dont what to say to make it easier for you, but right now her head is
spinning.  She will not even realise she is taking it out on you.  Sometimes
needs to take the wrap for this (in her head) and its seems as if it will be
 you for now.<<

I know it is (her head spinning), i hope she does realise what she is doing
(taking it out on me, cant take it much longer).

>> She does really love you and she will soon see what is going on in her
head.
 Please just hang in there, it will sort itself out.  I think you are maybe
right about giving her some space, so that you dont have to cope with it.<<

I know she does, but I cant continue to take the anger she has for
everything that has happened to her. I really cant.

>> There is no right and wrong and I cant give you much advice as I dont
know
 her personally, but I will be thinking of you and hoping she sorts herself
out.  There is only so much you can do as a mother, remember that.  You are
not superwoman.>>

I sometimes feel like I have to be superwoman. (not just with Donna, but
with other people also), seems to me that people think I am a robot or
something that doesnt have emotions.

>>Hang in there
Demi
 Mummy to ickle angel Connor Adam (full T18 - 11th June 2001)>>
 http://www.geocities.com/demipowell/index

Thanks Demi - you are a STAR !!

Kay - Mum to Kyle Nathan T13 (in heaven 18th April 2000) and Donna 19 yrs -
UK - England


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