[tri-wings] Re: I can't do this

>>> how do you guys make it through, I can't handle any of this.
I'm just angry all the time. I don't want to live like that,<<<

Trisha,
Grief is such an ugly monster.  You just never know when it hits or how hard.  
In the beginning it all too consuming.  People expect you to begin getting your 
life back on track much sooner than is possible because they just don't get it. 
 99% of the people who are/were close to you are now afraid of you because they 
don't know what to say or how to act.  They think that if you don't talk about 
it, it itsn't there.  Take each day as it comes.  Test people, find out who is 
willing to listen.  You might be surprised.  There will be someone and it 
probably isn't who you would expect it to be.  The best listeners are those 
that have been there.  If you have to join a support group do that, or talk to 
your clergy person if you have one.  As always we are here to, but sometimes 
you just have to rant and rave out loud.  If you have to go back to the 
hospital, maybe a nurse that was there with you that day would listen - just 
find someone, because someone is out there and willing to help you.

If things get rough with your husband, don't blame him.  People grieve 
differently and if the two of you can support each others method of grieving, 
it will bring you even closer.  I wish you all the luck in taking this step by 
step.  I know each one of us feels for you, we have all been there.

lotsoflove
Deanna~~~...~
wife to Mike, mom to Nicole 14, Jake 10, and  Jessica 5/4/02 (our precious 
angel -t18)
Coal Valley, IL USA
Meet Jessica @ http://home.att.net/~warpehoski

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