Dearest Tiffany, Grief is so personal and unpredictable....during the early days of my grief, I thought I was 'doing quite well'...but as time went by, it actually got worse, and is now getting better again.....I have never been in the pit of despair and in some ways I feel it was my right to be there, so I felt cheated...bizarre, I know, but grief teaches you that nothing is as it seems.....everything you feel, no matter how off the wall, is normal.....I spoke with a mom last night, whose little girl has been gone 16 years and she told me the pain does go...... (((((Tiffany))))) we care and understand...be kind to yourself.. With love Kathy s -----Original Message----- From: tri-wings-bounce@xxxxxxxxxxxxx [mailto:tri-wings-bounce@xxxxxxxxxxxxx] On Behalf Of Tiffany Killcreas Sent: Wednesday, August 18, 2004 6:45 PM To: tri-wings@xxxxxxxxxxxxx Subject: [tri-wings] How Do I Deal With This Pain? Hello Everyone I've been on lurk mode for a while. Just wanted to check in with all of =3D you and tell you that I have been praying for you. =93This e-mail is sent on the Terms and Conditions that can be accessed b= y Clicking on this link http://www.vodacom.net/legal/email.asp " Building ___ooOOoo__ Rainbows www.trisomyonline.org Families Helping Families On-line