[tri-wings] Re: Holiday Coping


--- Karen <karens@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:

> With the holidays coming up I was wondering how
> those that have faced them before cope? 
> Do you remember your angels during the holidays?


We always take a small Christmas tree out to her grave
a couple weeks before Christmas and then we go to the
cemetary on Christmas Day.  We also buy a gift for our
churches giving tree in her memory.  We try to get a
child that is the same age Jessica would be.  On
Christmas eve the church has a Teddy Bear drive so we
give one in her name for that also.   Outside of that
we don't do too much - I think if she would have been
here for a Christmas it would be different - as far as
others are concerned.  I don't blame them for not
acknowledging her, - it's one of those "they just
don't understand because they haven't been there"
things- so we just do our own thing.  Jake is very
uncomfortable about going to the cemetary now.  He
told me on her birthday this year that he just doesn't
like the way it makes him feel.  I hope someday he is
more comfortable, but I don't feel like I should force
it on him.  Nicole goes on her own at random times -
one of those heart warming things that allows me to
let her out of the closet once in a while.  Off topic
here, but we usually go to the cemetary on Christmas
day after those two have left for their dad's for the
day - one of Mike and my private moments (and now
Rylee too).

lotsofluv
Deanna ~~~~
Mom to Nicole 17, Jake 13, Jessica (our beautiful T18 angel) 5/04/02 and
Rylee 2 !!!
Wife to Mike
Meet Jessica @ http://home.mchsi.com/~warpehoski


I live in my own little world.  But it's ok - They know me here.


                
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