[tri-wings] Re: Holiday Coping

 Susanna is always in my heart. And even more so in the holiday season,
especially since she passed away just before Christmas and was buried
Christmas Eve.  We go to Mass on Christmas Eve for varied reasons...to
remember her in the beautiful surroundings of the church, all decorated, as
it was at her funeral; to give thanks for the healthy girls that we have
been blessed with since then; and also to join in the Christmas Spirit.  
When I say "we" I don't include John, as its not something that he does or
wants to do.  I guess he remembers her in his own special way.  As we all
know, some men find it difficult to express their feelings in an 'outward'
sort of way, but that does not mean that he doesn't think of her, because I
am certain that he does.  

Susanna's Birthday has just passed and although John didn't mention it, as
such, he asked me (on the day) if I wanted to go the cemetary.  
So we went and took some new flowers out to her and I sang her a 'Happy
Birthday' - she would have been 9 this year.
We used to visit Susanna's grave on a regular basis, but since the girls are
growing up and learning more, and they tend to get more emotional about
things -and also since Laura announced that when she grows up she wants "to
be the person who puts the flowers on the graves" (not that there is
anything wrong with that) - we have backed off a bit and only visit on
special days.  
Both my girls get very emotional, at the moment, when we talk about Susanna.
 Susanna's memory is etched in my heart and therefore I don't have to go far
at all to feel close to her or for her to feel close to me...

Infact, this is always the time of year when she feels so, so close.  It is
the time of year that she was with us.  As soon as I sense and smell and
feel the beginning of Spring time (in Australia), I feel her all around me.

Another thing I do at Christmas time, is hang Angel ornaments on the
Christmas tree in Susanna's memory -  I add a new one each year. 

Our families don't mention Susanna by name often,  but I KNOW that they
remember - just by the little things they do, some comments that are made
and my Mum's eyes filling with tears, but not really falling.....

Sue,
Wife to John and proud Mum of 3 beautiful and special little girls:
Susanna in Heaven (t18) Sleeping with the Angels; Laura (6 years) defiant &
headstrong, yet confident, clever and beautiful and Clare (4 years) cheeky &
impossible but 'Daddy's little girl', sweet, innocent and oh so cute still!
and also (Mad) Max the cat who wrecks EVERYTHING!
from Portland Australia
Susanna's pages: http://whitehead.bravehost.com/susanna.html

-------Original Message-------
From: tri-wings@xxxxxxxxxxxxx
Date: 10/27/05 18:16:49
To: Tri-Wings
Subject: [tri-wings] Holiday Coping
 
With the holidays coming up I was wondering how those that have faced them
before cope?
Do you remember your angels during the holidays?
What do your families do? Do they remember you and your angel as well, or is it 
a case that they think you should have "gotten over it" by now?
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