[tri-wings] Re: Hi I just joined

Marianne wrote
>>> How do you guys keep from thinking it was your fault.  That is how I
> felt the first couple of months after it happened.<<

(((((((((((((((((((((MARIANNE))))))))))))))))))))))))
I blamed myself, my (ex)husband,the dog, the garbage man, the computer, the 
whole damn world but nothing and no one is to blame, least of all you.I 
hated and still hate being told "it's one of those things" and I do believe 
that we are chosen to be parents of angels for reasons out of our 
comprehension.We may never know.Thinking its your fault does nothing except 
hurt you and you have been dealt more than enough hurt without adding to it.

>>  It was hard because
> my husband kept pushing me away. <<
Men deal with things differently to us girls.My ex was a complete asshole 
anyhow so his rejecting me and pushing me away was possibly not all to do 
with his grief but from what i've seen here and from talking to husband 2 
then it seems that men do it differently !!!!!!
take care and be gentle with yourself and with hubby.I'm sure he is trying 
in his own way.

hugs
Mandy,wife to Baz, mum to Matthew(13),Charlotte (12) , Gareth (t18 ^i^ 
14/11/99)and Dominic (CH ^i^ 23/7/00) and my little pot of gold at the end 
of a very long rainbow,Alfie( 22 months),
step mum to Katie(^i^) Ed (17)and Lucy(16 )England,UK
www.geocities.com/baby2angels2000

Time is.....
Too slow for those who wait,Too swift for those who fear,Too long for those 
who grieve,Too short for those who rejoice.But for those who love,Time is 
eternity.(Henry Van Dyke)


 
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