Sonya, Thanks and I think you are right I think talking with people who have gone through the same thing is the best. I haven't been as depressed and I have started going back to the gym. I just don't want to get too involved in it again because we want to try again. We miscarried again the beginning of the month I think it was almost as hard as losing Christian so I have came to a conclusion if the genetic testing comes back bad then I want to adopt, if it come back ok then I want to try again and after that I am going to get my tubes tied. It is too hard. I just hope we don't have too many more losses between now and then. I am sorry about your loss to Sonya it is hard. I can say I couldn't look at a baby let alone touch one with out it hurting I think I am getting better. I saw a baby at Wal-Mart last night and he was so cute I just wanted to go up and hold him and kiss him and tell his mommy how lucky she was and to cherish him, but I didn't want her to think I was physo so I admired him from a far as they went by. Karen, I know I said I would share my boys and I forgot so here they are if I can. I hope you guys get to see him... He was so precious. Marianne -----Original Message----- From: tri-wings-bounce@xxxxxxxxxxxxx [mailto:tri-wings-bounce@xxxxxxxxxxxxx] On Behalf Of Sonya Nuri Sent: Friday, February 24, 2006 3:58 PM To: tri-wings@xxxxxxxxxxxxx Subject: [tri-wings] Re: Hi I just joined Hi Marianne. I am sorry to hear that your son is no longer with you. And I am glad to hear that you are blessed to be a mother. My son was born and died on January 12, but I did get to spend ten full minutes with him, which was even more than I had hoped for. For me it is good to be able to express myself amongst people who have had a similar experience. I hope you find the support that you need here. --Sonya Deaton Marianne D SSgt 28 MOS/MXOOA <Marianne.Deaton@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote: I am new to this site so I would like to say hi and that my name is Marianne.=20 We found out in June that he had Trisomy 13 and he was born on Sept 29th he passed away on 1 Oct. At his service I had the chaplain read a poem that talked about a mother and how she was hurting but it hurt her even more not to have some one ask her how she was doing and about the baby she lost. I think that poem speaks out for most mothers and possibly fathers. I know you are your sister are going through a lot Stacy but if you guys support and comfort one another it will help you both. Grieving is hard no matter what. I wish I had more to say but I don't. =20 Marianne stacy- my sister just listened to the same stuff over and over while i cried. that=20 was the best thing she could have done and the only thing she felt she knew=20 how to do, so it worked well. it will probably never be easy to see her=20 pain, but you have to remember you are grieving, too. it is the worst of=20 all things to have happen as you unfortunatly already know. there are no=20 rules. the best thing for me has been people who are not afriad to talk=20 about tyler bring him up themselves. hard for most to do, but so nice for=20 grieving parents and relatives. noone wants their baby forgotten. take it easy, pam, t 13 angel tyler, kira almost 4 and abbey due in may elora ontario . My sister is having a hard time > also which makes it harder on me because I am very close to my sister (my > only sibling) and I can't stand to see her in pain.> >=20 Building ___ooOOoo__ Rainbows www.trisomyonline.org Families Helping Families On-line Building ___ooOOoo__ Rainbows www.trisomyonline.org Families Helping Families On-line --------------------------------- Yahoo! Mail Bring photos to life! New PhotoMail makes sharing a breeze. Building ___ooOOoo__ Rainbows www.trisomyonline.org Families Helping Families On-line -- Binary/unsupported file stripped by Ecartis -- -- Type: image/jpeg -- File: DeatonFamilySep05.jpg -- Desc: DeatonFamilySep05.jpg -- Binary/unsupported file stripped by Ecartis -- -- Type: image/jpeg -- File: Anthony, Christian & Daddy.jpg -- Desc: Anthony, Christian & Daddy.jpg -- Binary/unsupported file stripped by Ecartis -- -- Type: image/jpeg -- File: me and christian.jpg -- Desc: me and christian.jpg -- Binary/unsupported file stripped by Ecartis -- -- Type: image/jpeg -- File: christian.jpg -- Desc: christian.jpg Building ___ooOOoo__ Rainbows www.trisomyonline.org Families Helping Families On-line