[tri-wings] Re: Hello!!!!! I'm back!

Deanna,

WELCOME BACK!  So glad to hear from you and so glad things are going
well with Rylee.  Matthew also had reflux and that was such a rough
time.  We are expecting again.  This time a little boy named Nicholas.
I'm starting my 18th week.  All is well this far.  I experienced a
little of what you were mentioning (about the anger) during my
ultrasound when we were finding out that everything was great with
Nicholas.  I was so angry that my precious little girl had so many
problems on her ultrasound and wasn't here.  And, that I wouldn't get a
chance to have a girl.  Do not get me wrong...I am THRILLED with my two
boys, and so happy that Nicholas' ultrasound went well and that he
appears healthy, I was just so angry that Grace didn't make it here the
same way.  One minute I was sobbing in the ultrasound, the next laughing
hysterical (when he was spread eagle for the camera!)  Pregnancy
hormones!!!

Once again, welcome back.  We missed hearing from you!  Send pictures of
Rylee when you get a chance.

Hugs,

Brenda - wife to Rich, mommy to Matthew Alexander(2), Grace Alexandra
(^i^ 8/31/03 full T-13) and Nicholas Andrew (EDD 8/25/04)

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From: tri-wings-bounce@xxxxxxxxxxxxx
[mailto:tri-wings-bounce@xxxxxxxxxxxxx] On Behalf Of Deanna
Sent: Thursday, March 18, 2004 6:24 PM
To: tri-wings@xxxxxxxxxxxxx; tri-family@xxxxxxxxxxxxx
Subject: [tri-wings] Hello!!!!! I'm back!

Was that a European maternity leave or what???? (see, us American's
don't get 6 months or a year) I had no intention of being MIA for so
long.  I have missed you all, but keep looking at the thousands of mails
that have accumulated in my inbox and never seem to be able to take the
time to drop a line.  I have decided to do a mass dump and just jump in.
Sorry if I have missed any major events, hopefully I can catch up.

Rylee Nicole Waprehoski was born on October 20, 2003 - can't believe she
is five months already!  She was 9 pounds 13 ounces - not a wimpy child
- and healthy as a horse!  She has been such a delight for us inspite of
her colic (but I'm not about to complain about that!)  The only thing
with that is that you feel so bad for her, I knew she was in pain and
there was nothing I could do for her.  She got over that right around
the 3 month mark.  Then at the 4 month mark she discovered that she has
a lovely scream - used in anger.  I have never heard such a scream out
of a small little package - people just laugh, you can't do anything
else.  I think we have that under control now, and she is just all
smiles.  I took her in last week for her check up and she is now 14
pounds 11 ounces (she's slid down to just above the 50 percentile in
weight but is still 95 for height at 26 inches).

Jake and Nicole are great with her.  They just adore her - usually when
it is convenient for them.  Nicole has her Driver's permit, which is
very scary.  I just color my hair a little more often these days.  Jake
is in 6th grade and doing his thing.  Just got back from his school
conference - straight A's once again.  He makes me so proud.

We were very shocked after Rylee's birth about the emotions that
surfaced.  I say this to try to prepare you Wings mom's-to-be.  I guess
I went through the pregnancy thinking that once she was here, the pain
of losing Jessica would lessen (never thinking that Rylee would replace
Jessica, but hoping that the loss would soften) - I couldn't have been
more wrong.  Both Mike and I had a very difficult time.  I finally hit
the anger part of grief.  I never felt that before, but the rush of have
a new baby just made me realize what I had been missing and would never
get with Jessica.  It really blew me away how the feelings come so
uncontrollably.  I guess that is what was hard - the uncontrollable part
of it.  I felt like I had handled everything with Jessica pretty good
until then.  Mike felt the same only we never discussed it until after
because we didn't want to upset the other.  Sorry to ramble on, but I
think it's something that some of you might want to be aware of.
Everyone grieves differently, but this one just shocked me.

To those of you that are new here, I am sorry that you had to find us.
This is a wonderful group of people that have done so much for so many.
I found the list when I was pregnant two years ago.  I don't know how I
would have gotten through the loss of Jessica with out the kind souls
that are here.  I'm sure you will find the same.  My story is posted at
the link below my name if you would like to read about Jessica.  I've
been bad and haven't updated it for about a year, but hopefully that
will be something I can mess with during one of those nap periods.

It's good to be back, and I hope that Rylee cooperates everyday as well
as she has today so I can get back in the loop again.

lotsofluv
Deanna                                                               =20
Mom to Nicole 15, Jake 11, Jessica (our beautiful T18 angel) 05/04/02
and Rylee 5 months, wife to Mike
Coal Valley, IL
meet Jessica at http://home.att.net/~warpehoski
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