[tri-wings] Re: Hello

On 8/15/07, B Bridges <tabbridges_25@xxxxxxxxx> wrote:
> My name is Brooke. It has been 2 months today that we lost our beautiful baby 
> girl, Marlee Jonell.


Hi Brooke,
I am so sorry that you had to find this list.  I wrote to you in May
after you had found my little girl's site and signed the guestbook, so
I won't bother going through the introduction phase.

You will find alot of comfort and support here.  After the initial
grieving period, and everyone expects that you have "moved on" or they
try to convince themselves that you have - we are still here.  Someone
will know what you are feeling and that helps immensely, because you
can let the tears roll and it is not going to make anyone
uncomfortable.

One piece of advice that I would like to give you is to write down or
somehow document everything about Marlee.  Everything from the way you
felt when you found out that you were pregnant to the first sonogram
to the devastating day of receiving the news to the first kicks, all
the way through her life.  Time is kind of a bitter sweet thing when
you've lost your child.  You long to remember her smell and the feel
of her skin, but you so want that pain in your heart to go away.
Eventually that pain softens, it never goes away, but it does get
manageable and you are able to "fit" back into society, but with that
the sharp memories and details also fade somewhat.  That is why I
think it is so important to write everything down while it is fresh.
Right now you are probably thinking that there is not a thing you will
forget - I know I did, but when I reread my website, I realize that
things do get tucked away and as bad as I want to keep her close the
ole memory cells do wear out.

Always feel free to post here.  We talk about silly things as well as
our deepest darkest moments.  Don't feel pressured though - it's not
for everyone and many people will just lurk (read only and not post)
and that is ok too.  The point is to help you as you travel through
the emotions of the grieving process - and there are no rules, you do
what makes you feel better.


-- 
hugs,
Deanna~~~~
mom to Nicole 18, Jake 15, Jessica 5, ( in Heaven 05/04/02) and Rylee 3 .

meet Jessica @ http://home.mchsi.com/~warpehoski

"I live in my own little world.  But it's ok, they know me here!"
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