[tri-wings] Re: Hello

We still celebrate Zach
birthday every July, he will always be a part of our life, even though we
should be over it.


Amy why should you be over it??? I'm not and it's been 16 years!!! and 
frankly I'll NEVER be 'over it'.  We lost our precious children and that's 
not something I ever want to get over.  We celebrate Louise's birthdays and 
have little memorials on her wings day.  The fact that Zach was stillborn 
doesn't make it any less of a loss, in fact, I believe it is more of a loss 
because you never got to hold him alive.  Allow yourself to grieve for him 
and the life you and he lost don't beat yourself up about remembering him 
and thinking you should get over him it's just not helpful.  We get enough 
family anf friends telling us we should be over our kids we shouldn't be 
doing it to ourselves.  Grief is always going to be with you not that 
gut-wrenching immediate kind of stuff that you have initially but you are 
always going to feel like there is something missing and that's ok.

As far as supporting this friend at Church I believe you have done the best 
you can by letting them know you are there.  I don't know how I would have 
reacted had I known about Louise's diagnosis in utero but I think I would 
have been a bit scared too.  I'm sure this woman will come to you soon for 
support because she knows you know a little of what she is going through. 
But I really think she is scared to face it.  And being there for her 
friends and giving them tips is good too.  Maybe the money they are raising 
is to help them to provide care for their baby when it is born..... it 
sounds like a strange way to go about it but people mean well really.

You are not a selfish person Amy...
Don't worry about the world coming to an end tomorrow it's already tomorrow 
in Australia
Charles Schultz

"Life is like a box of chocolates you never know what you're gonna get!"
Forrest Gump's mother.

Tracey, <///>< RM/RN Mum to Jenny (19) currently 'wandering in the 
wilderness', Louise T18 (in heaven since July 1990), Jono (15), Jesse (12), 
Jimmy & Pippa angel dogs, Millie (our faithful girl) and wife to David my 
soulmate & best friend for 27 years now!!! :O))

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