[tri-wings] Re: Donna again


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From: <Bayeta99@xxxxxxx>
> Dear Kay,
>
>  I have been thinking about you and Donna quite a bit.   More on the
blighted ovum, don' t let it scare you. It may never happen again!
> I know that right now that isn't too comforting, but, it is true.   I
agree with you and the smoking pregnant woman. I probaly would have smacked
it out of her hand.<<

Thanks Betsy - really appreciate it.  The doctor did say IF it is this (they
are giving her a scan on Thursday to make 100% sure before they operate to
take the contents of her uterus away), then she will not have it happen
again, but you know how it is they can never say it will never happen again.

>>As far as Donna telling everyone to F off, well, she is confused right now
and also saddend by the horrible news. I don't really think that she means
it. But, let her cool off and when you are ready approach her.
You got to take care of you. You have been through your own hell with the
loss of Kyle. Maybe her loss will bring a little understanding as to what
you went through.<<

I know she is hurting and maybe swore at me in anger. I wish she would start
to see that her behaviours affect other people and have consequences though.
When I was expecting Kyle she rang me sometimes x2 in the night and I never
told her to 'F' off.  Not even when I was under such huge strain emotionally
knowing he was going to die.  I really will sit down and talk to her about
this properly, when she is a little calmer (however long that will be I dont
know).


> This may be a wake up call for Donna and hopefully she will mature from
and
> learn from this tragedy. I still say she ought to dump the creepy
boyfriend.<<

I wish she would dump him too. I think he is the one that needs the major
wake up call.  Trouble is, Donna has been through so much in her life and
this jerk hasnt - so I think her experiences make her more mature (most of
the time) and he isnt.  He is very much a mummys boy and she has interferred
too.  I dont like his parents at all because they do not respect Donna
either.  If they dont, how can they expect him to????

>> Why did they ever say she was infertile? Just nosey.<<

In brief, she has had tests and is awaiting surgery on her bladder - not
100% sure - but they did say she could be fertile.  i hope this isnt another
indication of it.

> Anyway, Keep me up to date.>>
Thanks for your support Betsy - I really appreciate it and everyone else
here that has mailed me on and off list.  Thanks.

>>Your friend, Betsy
Mom to Jenna Grace 20 months and John Dominic 7-16-01 (T18) My sweet Angel<<

Thank you (again)
Kay - mum to Kyle Nathan T13 (in heaven 18th April 2000) and Donna 19 yrs -
UK - England.

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