[tri-wings] Re: Demi

Hi Demi,
 
The rollercoaster of emotions continues on  for me as I'm sure it does  for 
everyone. We just passed Analee's six month angel date, followed shortly, of  
course, by Sky's. I think I struggle to move on totally in this grieving 
process  because I know that we still need to finish the process of the 
"funerals".  
 Both of the girls have been cremated but they haven't been buried yet.
Analee came to us via private adoption and we were not allowed to access  her 
bio families medical insurance. For 18mos. before the adoption was  
finalized, everything went on credit cards. All the promises about her needs  
being met 
while she was in our home went no where, and we certainly were not  going to 
return her to the life she had.
Anyway,  we still have to finish paying for the cemetery lots and the  grave 
marker before we can bury the girls.  I think having that final piece  done 
will help add the piece of closure I need. Now it just feels like some  awful 
trick, that someone has taken them for a while and I'm just waiting for  them 
to 
get home.
We normally take the kids each Nov. to have professional pictures taken. I  
couldn't handle doing it before the holidays but did manage to get it done this 
 week. We needed to take another group picture to document our newest  
addition as well.
We also brought home another new child, 2yr old India Faith.  She  actually 
moved in on Jan 10, but I didn't want to detract from your great news  and the 
arrival of baby Vada, etc....
India makes # 5 for us, so I knew I could wait on sharing.
India was a healthy baby at birth, but like Ian, she was severely beaten at  
3 months, and is now profoundly disabled. She has 6 siblings who are being  
adopted by a family who live about an hour from us.  I was able to meet all  of 
them and we will be able to maintain visits with them after the adoptions are  
finalized.
India has been a great addition for all of us.  She has a great giggle  that 
makes all of us laugh, and it is good to have a girl in the house  again.  The 
most difficult part has been deciding if we could deal with  having her wear 
Analee's clothes. She came to us with very little and she and  Analee happen t
o be the same size. We ended up having to go through things piece  by piece, 
each of us picking out items that were definately "not going to be  'hand me 
downs'". We knew we had inquired about adopting India over a year  ago. If she 
had come to us at that point she and Analee would have been sharing  most of 
their clothes anyway.
I have no idea how long I've been sitting here but it's after 3a.m., and  
definately time to give your eyes a break.  Sorry I went on and on and  
on...............
 
 
Nancy
mom to angels Sky (11/23/92--8/26/06)
and Analee  (7/22/96--7/4/06 T-18) and
Tony 8, Ian 3, and India 2 at  home.
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