[tri-wings] Re: Deanna, Gloria, Susan...

Brenda, I don't think anyone thought you ment us, I certainly didn't.  I do
try to send a remembering thought to those that I know are active on the
list but I do have so much trouble putting the angels with the survivors
names at times.  I think that people do forget the day unless they have a
something to mark it ie.  I always send a note or an  email to my friends
sister who had a stillborn son 8 yrs ago, its easy to remember because it
happened right before Rebecca's birthday so that was my marker, the mom
thinks I am great as I am the only one who remembers  anymore, the funny
thing is though she and I were pregnant with our firsts at the same time and
her daughter was born in April and Bec in June, her daughter is one of they
only kids that really hits it home to me what we should have had, and I have
a hard time being around her ( of course this mom does not know that)  and
another reason some people don't say anything is they don't want to upset
you, as a Doc at work said to me when Bec died  " I wasn't going to say
anything because I didn't want to make you sad by thinking about it, but
then I realized you were probably thinking about it anyway so I decided it
would be better to tell you I am sorry for your loss"  people are weird


Susan mom to Rebecca t18m 06/06/91 - 05/02/06 and Mark age 15 ADD/LD

-----Original Message-----
From: tri-wings-bounce@xxxxxxxxxxxxx [mailto:tri-wings-bounce@xxxxxxxxxxxxx]
On Behalf Of Thomas, Brenda L.
Sent: Thursday, September 06, 2007 9:10 AM
To: tri-wings@xxxxxxxxxxxxx
Subject: [tri-wings] Re: Deanna, Gloria, Susan...

Thanks so much to everyone who replied to my post.  I certainly wasn't
complaining about anyone on this list.  I was more upset about my family
and friends off list that didn't recognize Grace's angel day.  I sort of
expect it from my husband...he's been that way almost since day one.  I
know, Deanna, men deal differently with grief.  But was sort of
surprised by my Mom, sister, close friends, etc. =20

Funny enough, this year just felt different all together.  I don't know
if it's because it's now been 4 years, or if it's because we were so
busy with Matthew starting Kindergarten this year, or what.  It just
didn't seem as painful this time.  I think that's why I said in my
earlier post that I was just sort of numb.  I guess life truly does just
go on.  Previous years almost the entire month of August I could feel
myself starting to break down as we got closer to the 31st.  Truly
almost a physical reaction.  This year was totally different.
So...maybe it's a good thing that no one remembered??? =20

Anywho...just wanted to say thanks to all of you.  More times than not
you guys and your posts are the ones that get me through to the next day
and I appreciate you all more than you know!

Hugs,

Brenda - wife to Rich, mommy to Matthew Alexander(5), Grace Alexandra
(^i^ 8/31/03 full T-13) and Nicholas Andrew (3!)


-----Original Message-----
From: Kim and Gloria
Sent: Wednesday, September 05, 2007 10:16 PM
Subject: [tri-wings] Re: Brenda--Thinking of you...

Quoting "Thomas, Brenda L." <blthomas@xxxxxxxx>:

> I'm still here.  I've been a little numb since Grace's angel day on
> Friday.  This was the first year that none of my family or friends
> remembered (save Kathy S from here!).=3D20


Yes, I was thinking of you and your family last week.  Hope your days
went by=20
gently.=20
This is the first day I've been on the computer in over a week--Kim and
I went=20
on a road trip Wed thru Monday, down thru Missouri to pick up an outside

furnace for our meat store, and also did alot of antiquing.  Came back
thru SE=20
Iowa where we attended an "Old threshers' Show".=20
It was a peaceful relaxing trip.
Sorry I didn't send a note before we took off, especially since no one
else=20
did. I'm also sure it's hard when those special days fall on holiday
weekends. =20
Everyone else is busy celebrating the longweekend, and your mind is on
your=20
precious little angel.
Hugs to you and your family,
Gloria--mommy to angel Erin
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