[tri-wings] Re: Dealing with Baptism

Stacey,=20

You need a hug. Put your arms around yourself and you will feel a big =
one
from everyone on this list. Yes, we do care. I think that everyone, =
great
and small should have their own special day.

Most people want to forget pain and celebrate joy. Leslie is a special =
case.
Your family associates the memory of Leslie with pain in your life =
rather
than celebrating the life of an angel. You had an opportunity to bond =
with
Leslie, to give her a sponge bath, to smell her and to love her; they =
did
not have an opportunity to experience that bonding. I sincerely do not
believe that they want to hurt you by slighting her memory.

She will always be your angel and Grandma Linda's first grandchild. Our
society tends to equate value with how much someone currently =
contributes to
society unless they did something really important. The best part of the
group of people on this list is that they know better. Our worth has =
nothing
to do with what we do. It has everything to do with how much someone =
loves
us. In Leslie's case, she is special. She is important enough that God =
sent
his Son to die for her. She is special enough that you would have =
probably
done the same thing for her. That is about as good as it gets.=20

As far as sharing the day with something else, the most important memory =
for
you is always going to be Leslie. Her value has nothing to do with what
someone else thinks any more than the law of gravity. If someone doesn't
believe in it, it still works. If someone thinks that it isn't =
applicable to
them and they jump out of 20 story building, the law will function,
regardless. Leslie is real. Her "realness" and her value has absolutely
nothing to do with what some ignorant person thinks or feels.

My vote is that you should let your sister have the baptism on any day =
she
wants. That has absolutely nothing to do with Leslie's worth.=20

Give yourself another hug from us. God bless you.

Paul
Grandpa to Angels
Annalis Renee Brown T18- April 9, 2004
Autumn Marie Brown- Feb. 20, 2003

-----Original Message-----
 On Behalf Of Stacey Folkner
Sent: Thursday, August 18, 2005 11:15 AM
To: tri-wings@xxxxxxxxxxxxx
Subject: [tri-wings] Dealing with Baptism

... My family doesn't really acknowledge Leslie's birth/angel day but I =
feel
that it would take even more away from the day. ...


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