[tri-wings] Re: Dealing with Baptism

Stacey,

Just remember that we all handle our grief differently. Amy and I take the
girls to the cemetary every April 21st for Jessica's birthday. We take cake
and punch along with a small present from each of the girls and some
balloons to release. Up until this year some friends met us out there also
and we had a little party for her. I know that some people would think that
we are crazy for celebrating our dead daughter's birthday but so be it. She
might not be here but her memory lives on in each of us and the everyday
things that we do. I always thought that mine and Amy's parents didn't
understand until last year when we found out that they went out to the
cemetary on her birthday also. Maybe they didn't take cake or presents or
balloons out there for her, but they still went out to visit their
grandaughter on this special day. They each have their own way of dealing
with her birthday/ angel day and just because I wasn't aware of it doesn't
mean that the joy or sadness was any less for them.

I remember Amy wondering whether or not she should go to my brother and
sister-in-law's baby shower the weekend after we lost Jessica. She went but
was very nervous and had to go outside several times. She said that she was
glad she went though and it helped her emotionally.

I don't think that it will do anything to take away from  Leslie's special
day. If anything it can also be a celebration of her and how much you love
her. I'm sure also that Leslie will be there at the baptism along with all
of her angel friends. What's better to have at a baptism than an angel
watching over her little cousin?

Jim, Amy's main squeeze, dad to Mandy (12), Katie (8), and Jessica Nicole
( Full T18- 4/21/99) http://www.trisomyonline.org/french.htm




> I don't post very often and I am going to ask at the very beginning for
you all to be brutally honest with me. part of me thinks I'm over-reacting
to a situation and a part of me is telling me that I have every right
to...so please, if you respond to this email, please be brutally honest, I
won't hold it against anyone. Here is the situation...



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