[tri-wings] Dealing with Baptism

I don't post very often and I am going to ask at the very beginning for you all 
to be brutally honest with me. part of me thinks I'm over-reacting to a 
situation and a part of me is telling me that I have every right to...so 
please, if you respond to this email, please be brutally honest, I won't hold 
it against anyone. Here is the situation...
My younger sister is getting ready to have her 2nd child. Since we do not know 
if it is a boy or girl yet, I will refer to this child as sunshine (the 
nickname) for the purpose of this email. I talked to my sister yesterday 
evening. She was telling me that the baby is already large and she isn't due 
until September 13th. They moved her due date up to the 28th of August. This 
was exciting, thinking that maybe Sunshine would be born on my birthday, the 
29th. Well the situation that has me rattled was brought up later in the 
conversation. Cheryl (my sister) was telling me that they would like to have 
Sunshine's baptism in November. She asked me if it would be OK with me if they 
have it on November 20th. That is Leslie's birthday/Angel day. She went on to 
explain that they would like for our Grandparents to be here for it and they 
don't wnat them to have to make 2 trips, they live out of town and they are 
getting to the point in their lives that they don't do alot of traveling. They 
will be coming up for Thanksgiving so Cheryl thought that if they have the 
baptism on the 20th they could be here and just stay the week. Sounds like a 
great plan right?? Not so much. She asked me if that was OK and I asked her 
about doing it the following Sunday. The whole family would be here and it just 
made more since. Well, she didn't like that idea because our Cousin is getting 
married that Saturday and she thought it would just be to hectic of a weekend 
for everyone. So she asked again if the 20th would be Ok and all I could say 
was "I guess".
My family doesn't really acknowledge Leslie's birth/angel day but I feel that 
it would take even more away from the day. It's hard enough that Leslie shares 
her day with my Dad and I have to go do the birthday thing with him while 
Leslie's gets ignored but I have learned to make my appearence and get on with 
it. Even though it has been almost 9 years it still hurts at times like it was 
yesterday. I honestly don't know if I could go to the baptism if she holds it 
on that day, but I don't want to hurt anyones' feelings and step on anyones 
toes. I am at a loss and I don't want to say anything to Cheryl right now. It 
would be a different story if the baby was due or even born on Leslies day, 
that couldn't be helped, but this is something that can be avoided.
I would love to hear any words of advise you may have to share.
Thanks for letting me vent.
Stacey
Mommy to an Angel
^i^ Leslie Serina ^i^
Trisomy 9  11-20-96
http://www.geocities.com/staceyfolkner/LeslieSerina.html
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