[tri-wings] Re: Caleb's Story

((((((((((((Mary)))))))))))
You did a beautiful job in sharing Caleb's story.  Wow!   You deserve  
to shed a few tears when writing this!  I certainly did as I read it.
> Anyway, on Tuesday, October 23, 2007 Caleb Earl Keller was taken  
> from us and sent into God's world with his Papa Jones. There I will  
> see them again someday.
Everyone's story is just a little bit different.  And yet, everyone's  
story has that same common element in it.  We have all lost someone  
very precious to us.  And you have lost two children!  I'm sure that  
you felt a loss after your miscarriage, too.  You are so early into  
the grieving process.  I'm sure you will have good days and not so  
good ones.  You have a wonderful family who all have shared their  
love with Caleb.  That is great.  Be sure to give Hannah an extra hug  
every now and then, just to encourage her and remind her that you are  
there to listen when she is willing to share her feelings.   
Sometimes, those who keep things in are having the hardest time.  And  
Paul sounds like he will come to you automatically when he needs to  
cry.  That is good.  We seem to have found that a lot of men handle  
grief differently than women do.  WE just need to remember that just  
because it is different, it doesn't mean that it isn't there.  You  
are off to a great start.
> My children handled the news differently,as we know no 2 children  
> are the same. Hannah Elizabeth keeps everything in. She shows  
> little emotion, this is her way. Paul Donald balled himself up on  
> my lap and cried for what seemed hours. His dream of having a baby  
> brother destroyed.

Anytime that you feel like writing, to ask a question or to just  
vent, this group seems to always be there for each other.  We try  
very hard at acceptance of all kinds of situations.  I hope you find  
that to be true, too.   You say that it has taken you "days" to want  
to begin to tell your story.  I think it took my daughter almost a  
year.  Most of my granddaughter's story on this list has come from  
me.  And that is OK.  Cheryl chose to be on another list (away from  
Mom).  Each of us needs to deal with this loss in our own way.   
Cheryl has a standing vacation day on Nov. 1.  This year, she has  
taken Nov. 2nd off, too, to make a long weekend.  That way, they  
always do something special on Hope's birthday.  And this year, Ali  
will have pictures taken for Christmas on the 2nd.  A vacation day  
taken for both girls.   {;-)

You will be in my thoughts and prayers in the coming days and months.

Hugs,
Sheila Helleson
Minnesota Grandma to:  Hope (T-18 ^i^ 11-1-1) & Alison; Cadence and  
Bridge
Mom to Cheryl (& Denny);  Wade (& Charity)
Wife to Richard for 35 years

"Shared joy is double joy, and shared sorrow is half-sorrow."   
Swedish Proverb

Laughter and tears are the healing medicines of God.







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