[tri-wings] Re: Another Holiday Question

:-))  I do put Rebecca's name on cards with a little angel token
^i^........I have no idea if anyone feels uncomfortable...they certainly
have not said anything to me. My SIL in Ireland sends me a card every
year for Rebecca's birthday (with a gift) and her angel day, and she is
remembered in Christmas cards as well. My other SIL never mentions her
unless I speak first :-)  but that's ok....I accept that we are all
different...(as long as they accept that I am different!)

With people who don't know it can be very difficult.....when I went back
to work, I just assumed that all of my work mates had got the news
out....so at our first client, group meeting, 5 of them, one of me, one
of the men asks....."so how is your baby?".........I just
froze..........then said, Ken, she died........knowing that he would
feel awful!!  But I couldn't even think!!  I never thought I would have
to answer that question....

((((Hugs)))) =20

Kathy s

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[mailto:tri-wings-bounce@xxxxxxxxxxxxx] On Behalf Of Karen
Sent: 29 October 2005 01:54 AM
To: tri-wings@xxxxxxxxxxxxx
Subject: [tri-wings] Another Holiday Question

I have another question from someone who is a little too shy at the
moment=20
to ask herself.

This one is about Christmas Cards,
When you send out your Christmas Cards do you add your angels name?
If you do - how do your family and friends react? Does it make them=20
uncomfortable and so avoid you over the holidays? I don't think I could
bear=20
for anyone else to tell me that I should get over it and move on........
If you used to do it - when did you stop?
When did your family and friends expect you to stop?

And how do I cope with all the friends who don't know yet that my baby
has=20
died? If I put her on the card I am afraid that I will get a lot of
sympathy=20
calls and I am not sure that I could handle that, at the same time I
want=20
them to call and not stay away - confused aren't I??

Also if I don't put her on the card they will also know that something
is=20
wrong because they will be expecting news about the new baby. Its hard
to=20
know what the right thing to do is........

I think I am beginning to hate Christmas and just want to cancel it this

year.
And thank everyone for the great ideas about remembering her with
ornaments.=20
I really loved the idea of taking a Christmas tree to her grave.
Sometimes I=20
get so upset thinking of her all alone.


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