[tri-wings] Re: Another Holiday Question


--- Karen <karens@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:

 
> This one is about Christmas Cards,
> When you send out your Christmas Cards do you add
> your angels name?

I do a quorky little poem every year detailing what
has happened in Dr. Suess style.  The year we had
Jessica I wanted to quit and just couldn't get into it
- writers block I guess.  With the pushing and
prodding of the family and those that were used to
getting it and also a bottle of Cap'n at my side I got
through it.  Her paragraph was a gentle thank you to
God and everyone for their support.

Since then I haven't signed her name except for on the
Wings Christmas cards.  Mainly this is because I don't
want the sympathy, and NOONE will tell me to get over
her.  It does give me a ting of guilt but I sign with
our webaddress and people that care go out and visit
it.  I get my point across that way and now with my
new page it tackles this type of issue.



I want 
> them to call and not stay away - confused aren't I??
> 
> Also if I don't put her on the card they will also
> know that something is 
> wrong because they will be expecting news about the
> new baby. Its hard to 
> know what the right thing to do is........

I didn't run into that problem because most people
knew about Jessica.  At least anyone that we would
celebrate the holidays with or send cards to.



> I think I am beginning to hate Christmas and just
> want to cancel it this 
> year.

The first year holidays stink.  I'm sorry for being
blunt, but you have to go through all the motions and
you know that someone is missing.  Once you get
through that though it does get easier.  One thing
that might make it a little easier is that people do
expect you to have a difficult time.  By the second
year everyone expects that you are "over" it and by
then you're kind of callous to people's ignorance to
your loss, so it kind of balances out.


> And thank everyone for the great ideas about
> remembering her with ornaments. 
> I really loved the idea of taking a Christmas tree
> to her grave. Sometimes I 
> get so upset thinking of her all alone.
> 

She's not alone, she's with you in your heart.  Carry
her proudly, talk to her - she's listening.



lotsofluv
Deanna ~~~~
Mom to Nicole 17, Jake 13, Jessica (our beautiful T18 angel) 5/04/02 and
Rylee 2 !!!
Wife to Mike
Meet Jessica @ http://home.mchsi.com/~warpehoski


I live in my own little world.  But it's ok - They know me here.


        
                
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