[tri-wings] Annalis

Paul wrote
 
>>Annalis was not a "problem." She is a very precious daughter, sister, 
>>granddaughter, and great granddaughter. Annalis made an impact on all of us 
>>that I wouldn't trade for anything.<<
 
(((((((((((((((((Paul))))))))))))))))))))))))
 
I am a great believer that all children are precious and no matter what they 
may come along with,there is never any "problem".....
People have no right to judge,no right to say stuff like they do about getting 
"straightened out" and certainly no right to think that someone as precious as 
Annalis could be a problem.I really do wish that those who don't know the pain 
we suffer would engage brains before opening their mouths but sadly they don't 
always and what comes out causes more pain than we can  bear.
 
 
 >>The x mother-in-law even had the gall to ask my wife if Paula was going to 
 >>have "her tubes tied" at the hospital while Annalis was struggling for life. 
 >>I know I would not have handled it well if I had overheard her.<<
 
You and me both my friend......in fact she sounds like my ex mother in law 
!!!!(please dont get me started on her  GRRRRRRR)
>>Paula has three that lived and are very healthy. She lost the last two. I 
>>know that it hurts. <<
 
Like Deanna said I lost two within 9 months of each other.I already had two 
perfect heathy children prior to my two angels and I think that in some ways 
that hurts more because its harder to understand why suddenly things have gone 
wrong.My marriage fell apart (nothing to do with the loss of our 
children...long story but shall we just say that he discovered a preference for 
his own sex rather than the fairer one!!) and after remarrying late last year I 
am now the very proud mum to a beautiful 5 week old healthy little boy.Much 
though it hurts to be without my boys,I'm so glad that I didn't take any 
drastic steps .I do agree that it is everyone's own free choice but we all know 
that in the midst of grief we don't think straight and there are many on this 
list that are living proof that there is hope,there is light at the end of the 
tunnel and pots of gold at the end of rainbows.......people can and do have 
healthy babies after loss.Paul,I am not blind and never pretend that it
 s all
 plain sailing and sadly there are those amongst us who for whatever reason 
will only ever hold their children in their hearts BUT if we never take the 
risk, we never know.
If it will help Lisa any then please pass on my email address to her and I will 
try and help her all I can....
 
 
Please don't feel the need to apologise for rambling.......you are not and even 
if you are then we all do it and that's what we are here for.
I do wish that I could help ease your pain more..I think grandparents of angels 
get double the pain because they see their own child hurt at the loss of a 
child as well as greiving for the loss of a grandchild.
my thoughts are with you
God bless
hugs
Mandy,wife to Baz, mum to Matthew(11),Charlotte (10) , my two angels Gareth
(t18 ^i^ 14/11/99)and Dominic (CH ^i^ 23/7/00) and my pot of gold at the end
of a very long rainbow,Alfie (born 19/4/04) and step mum to Katie(^i^) Ed
(15)and Lucy (14 )England,UK

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But they aren't something you can touch,they're something you must feel..."








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