[tri-wings] Re: Analee and Sky

Hi All,
We've finally settled on a date to bury Sky and Analee's ashes. We ended up  
putting the final cemetery and monument bills on credit cards so that we could 
 have them buried in June because our pastor is leaving our church at the end 
of  June and we really did'nt want a stranger taking care of this final piece 
with  us.
In some ways it will be a relief to complete this step but also very  
difficult to take their physical remains away from here for the last time.   
The 
monument is already set at the cemetery, although they initially told me  that 
I 
couldn't place a stone there until a body was buried....... I got a bit  pushy 
and threatened demand return  of the money for the seven graves  we had been 
paying on, because I would not place my children their without a  proper 
marker.  They decided to make an "exception" and allow us to place  the stone 
early. 
 Like a couple of weeks makes a big difference to them.  They weren't going 
to use that 3ft of grass for anything......
Its all such an emotional drain again, trying to figure out who should be  
there, what prayers, music, lunch after,....  
Analee started her big downslide on May 7th last year so I've already  
started playing things over in my head. How many weeks was she in the hospital? 
 
what day did we go to school to see her friends? In May we still had hope. By  
June we knew better. On the morning of July 4th she died.
A month later Sky went with her, all because a stubborn neurosurgeon  
believed that she had a urinary tract infection, rather than the obvious shunt  
malfunction that I was insisting she was having. Sometimes I get so angry but  
the 
anger is pointless.
I guess it's all about the whole grief thing coming full circle again...,  
not that I've ever put it away.....we've just got two funerals to finish  up.   
June 21 at 10 a.m. 


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