[tri-med] Re: [tri-mosaic] Re: [tri-family] having kids

Michelle
My heart goes out to you, I know how you feel. My husband says I think too
much on that subject. As I sit here crying reading and writing this email, I
wish you all the best!!!

Cheryl (Wife to Jason, Mom to Matthew T12 3yrs old )
----- Original Message -----
From: James Waite <jwaite@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
To: <tri-mosaic@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>; <tri-med@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
Sent: Tuesday, February 26, 2002 1:02 PM
Subject: [tri-med] Re: [tri-mosaic] Re: [tri-family] having kids


>
>
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: "Karen Schuler" <karens@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx>
>
>
> > There are two ways of looking at this and I am not sure which one you
mean
> > so bear with me and I will try and answer it both ways without getting
> > technical or controversial.
>
> As the mom of a higher functioning mosaicer this is a topic that creeps
into
> my mind and heart at times.
>
> Depending on the day and how Alex is doing I have different feelings and
> thoughts on this topic. Alex says he wants to get married and have
children
> yet he can't remember the facts about the birds and the bees that he and
Jim
> had last year. Alex and I had a discussion about it AGAIN after helping
him
> with some health homework (STD's was the topic and we all know how you get
> those). Or maybe he never truly understood it the first time.............
> The reason we wanted him to be aware of the b and bees is that we don't
want
> anyone to take advantage of his ignorance. Nuff said on that one.
>
> To have babies he needs a female. I often wonder what his chances for that
> are. Most parents are not going to steer their daughters to marry a man
with
> limited job potential and mental abilities. Gotta say that I wouldn't put
> that on my daughters wish list for a hubby.
>
> As for Alex having children, how would he deal with having a full
trier?????
> I mean taking care of himself will be a challenge out in the world all on
> its own. Even a typical baby would be a challenge with his current limited
> ability to "think outside the box" (ie: if this doesn't work I'll try that
> kind of thing. If this doesn't work I give up is the current way it goes).
>
> We all want the BEST for our children and my heart breaks to think that
Alex
> won't be considered best for anything to do with matters of the heart and
> future (as I sit crying typing and thinking about this).
>
> On the other hand, maybe there's someone out there who's similar to him
and
> they would be happy together. But how would they do it? What does it mean
> for me? Playing the selfish card here but will Jim and I ever have that
> "post children" time for US ? Granted that's not a driving force for me
but
> something I do think about now and then.
>
> I realize that with Alex being 4 years away from high school graduation
> there is a lot of time yet to see just where his abilities fall. Guess I'm
> just being a worry wart..............
>
> Michelle mom to Alex (14,partial trisomy 14 mosaic) and Molly (11)
> MichiganUSA
>
>
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