[tri-med] Re: [tri-med]adoption

Laurie,

    I know you wrote me off list for ideas about cp.  To tell you the truth, 
I'm not really versed on it myself.  We treat Joe like anyone else, and cp 
doesn't even cross my mind most of the times.  I have had to remind myself 
that his annoying little ticks are from cp, not him trying to bother me! 
Joe is a lot like your Marissa in the fact that he was neglected as a child. 
He was left in a wheelchair in front of the TV a lot, and was taken to the 
police station at least once because he was left alone at a bus stop and was 
trying to play with the little kids (little kids sometimes think he's 
scary).  I'm not sure if CPS was involved, but he was moved to a group home. 
Andrew worked in the group home where Joe lived and recognized almost 
immediately that he didn't belong there.  Joe has no behaviors and didn't 
get any attention because the staff was always trying to control the kids 
who did.  He was in diapers, which was ridiculous, and wasn't progressing at 
all.  We decided to take him in because it would allow one of us to stay 
home when we had kids.  Now Joe is doing great.  His communication skills 
have soared, and he is happy.
    Anyway, it is such a blessing to have Joe in our lives.  It seemed that 
he was like training for Elanor (navigating the medicaid system, working 
with someone with special needs, etc.  I'm sorry he was born with a 
disability, but looking at the rest of his family (brother in jail for drug 
dealing, sister had her kids taken away, mom an alcoholic) I think maybe he 
had it the best.

Jennifer, mom to Arwen, 6; Elanor (t18), 4; caregiver to Joe (cerebral palsy 
& spastic displaysia), 25 & Eric, 18; and wife to Andrew

----- Original Message ----- 
From: <TRIER9@xxxxxxx>
To: <tri-med@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
Sent: Friday, October 22, 2004 1:41 PM
Subject: [tri-med] Re: [tri-med]adoption


> In a message dated 10/22/04 8:15:18 AM Pacific Daylight Time,
> JayandBel@xxxxxxxxx writes:
>
>> And now this child, that started off with a wonderful chance in life, was
>> taken away by his parents!!!!!!!!!  Of all people to take that away from
>> him,,,,,,,,,,,  his parents!! My heart is so andgered and
>
> Hi Belinda,
> Just wanted to comment on our foster daughter.  Her little life's 
> beginning
> could have been so different......had she been born to different parents 
> or had
> she been removed from their care years ago.  For nearly 4yrs this little 
> girl
> was left lying on her back trying to scoot around the house by using her
> right side only.  Her left hand is at a 7 month old level and her right 
> foot rolls
> under when she tries to stand.(there was never chance for muscle to 
> develope)
> It's really such a shame! I wish I could have gotten my hands on this 
> little
> girl years ago.  CPS was involved for YEARS......it just takes so darned 
> long
> sometimes.
> I know what you mean tho..........I have a daughter with Trisomy and I 
> have
> dealt over the years with so much pain......mostly from watching her TRY 
> SO
> HARD to accomplish things.  This is why I decided to foster this little 
> girl.  I
> knew I had enough experience to get her the help she needs.  It is a 
> different
> parenting 'role' though.  I never have the guilt of what happened to her,
> just complete empathy for her past and sheer joy showing her how wonderful 
> the
> world really can be as a child!
> This little peanut was found to be legally blind at 4 months of 
> age.......but
> not a darn thing was done for her.  Now, for nearly a year, she has had
> glasses!! YIPEE!! She can see and she is loving taking in so many new 
> sights!! When
> I look into her eyes, it's like watching a newborn seeing things for the
> first time!
> It really is awesome having her in our lives.  People tell me how 
> wonderful
> it is that we are taking care of her, but really......WE HAVE BEEN SO 
> BLESSED
> by this child.  I am so grateful to call her my daughter!
> Laurie
> Mom to Brianna, t9p, Brandon and soon Marissa!
>
>
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> 

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