[tri-med] Re: [tri-family] Re: How to pick a school

switched to med

----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Michelle Wilson"
>>I will postpone
> services until she goes to school in late August.  I
> do not feel that faren will lose anything by the
> therapists not coming to our house, cause frankly, I
> don't feel Faren has gained much from them anyway.
> Also, I'm really tired of them coming to my house and
> having to schedule around them.

Let me, as a therapist, be the first to tell you that you must always give
yourself permission to say NO to therapy. We all need breaks, and from very
early on I set the limits with Alex's early intervention and medical
appointments. For 3 weeks of the month I would go to doctors appointments,
and have therapists come or go to therapy. But we had one week a month where
nothing was ever scheduled (unless it was life or death). One week where we
pretended that everything was "normal". This time out is just as important
as therapy. You CAN have too much stimulation and early intervention.

There are pro's and con's to home based therapy and centre based therapy -
but one of the biggest problems for me with home based therapy was the
feeling that I was living in a gold fish bowl. It might be the "natural"
environment for a child - but its not natural for a family to constantly be
inviting strangers into your home and life, having everything on display all
the time, having your whole life, your home and personal relationships on
show for everyone to see, comment on and criticise. (and believe me whether
you realise it or not therapists and others do go back to the office and
comment).

Everyone has advice and opinions when you have a child, but its 10 times
worse worse when you have a child with special needs. Everything about your
life whn you have a child with special needs is constantly under scrutiny. I
was ever so glad when we went to centre based therapies for the same reasons
Michelle. I don't have anything to hide, and love visitors, but I like my
privacy too.

"Love's the only house big enough for all the pain in the world"
Martina McBride

Keep Looking For Rainbows!!
Karen, Mum to Alex (8 years, T-18 Mosaic)

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