[tri-med] Re: orthodontics

i know how you feel we do favor taylor over my other childern
becauses we do'nt know how much time we will have with him=2E my
parents do the same, taylor does no wrong in my dads eyes, i do'nt
know if it because he does'nt have a dad anymore or my dad will not
be here to see him grow up=2E my parents are'nt in the best of health
either=2E i make much my other childern do get mom time to=2E but the
first year i was not home much in the hosp to much with taylor=2E gina
son taylor triosmy 8 mosaic

---- Original Message ----
From: Dncingqwn@aol=2Ecom
To: tri-med@freelists=2Eorg
Subject: [tri-med] Re: orthodontics
Date: Mon, 23 Apr 2007 22:57:59 EDT

>
>=20
>kaiya's grandma goes through these types of issues for two reasons i=20
>
>believe=2E she favors kaiya 1) because she is the daughter of her only
>biological =20
>daughter (lots of half and steps in my family) and 2) she favors her
>because she =20
>is "different"=2E and you can probably add on that kaiya is favored
>because she =20
>lives with her grandma too=2E=2E=2E my mom used to feel guilty for spoil=
ing
>kaiya=20
>but  the whole family does it because we just don't know how much
>time that=20
>we'll  have=2E=20
>=20
>kelly - mom to akaiya T18, 4 yrs old
>=20
>p=2Es=2E if asked, my mother would never admit that she favors kaiya
>because  she=20
>is the daugher of her biological daughter=2E=2E=2E=2E
>=20
>=20
>In a message dated 4/23/2007 9:35:24 AM Central Daylight Time, =20
>saatsmom@hotmail=2Ecom writes:
>
>Michelle (Alex's mom),=20
>
>I'm just curious if Alex is aware  that he's "different" (for lack of
>better
>term)=3F I worry about Julian  feeling that all the time=2E And I am
>curious from
>all others on this list  about this: I am only  the grandma to
>Julian(mosaic
>partial trisomy 1)  I have 2 other grandchildren that are not
>affected by
>trisomies=2E I had a  huge fight with my son in law and one thing came
>out is
>that I favor Julian  over their other child=2E (Julian is not the son
>in laws
>biological child) I  accused the son in law of favoring his
>biological
>daughter=2E It was a nasty  nasty fight but we both apologized later=2E =
=20
>Sooo, I
>believe I  don't love Julian any more than the other grandchildren
>but I do
>feel a  need to protect him=2E I admit I do spend more time with him
>but I
>thought it  was because the others are babies=2E I loved being a
>grandma but
>nowI feel  it's a job and I have to make sure everything is
>absolutely equal
>and  believe it or not, thats difficult to do=2E  How do you do that
>when  he
>requires more time=3F=3F=3F  I'm so sad about it=2E Does anyone else go =
 thru
>this
>andfeel the tremendous amount of guilt I feel=3F  Help!! =20
>
>Karen,( grandma to Julian,3 1/2 yrs old, mosaic partial trisomy 1)=2E=20=

>grandma
>to Lucy 1 yr old and Natalie  8 months old =20
>
>
>
>
>---------------------------------------------------------------------
>-------
>From:   "jwaite" <jwaite@ameritech=2Enet>
>Reply-To:   tri-med@freelists=2Eorg
>To:   <tri-med@freelists=2Eorg>
>Subject:  [tri-med] Re:  orthodontics
>Date:  Sat, 21 Apr 2007 08:40:05  -0400
>>
>>----- Original Message -----
>>From: "Karen"  <karens@optushome=2Ecom=2Eau>
>>>People react to what they see,  especially first impressions=2E Often
>its not
>>>even conscious=2E I think  that its this that makes it important for
>them to
>>>have nice  teeth=2E
>>
>>So true=2E=2E=2E=2E=2Eunfair but that's the way it  is!
>>
>>We've just noticed that Alex's hair is thining on top=2E Like  he
>needs THAT
>to
>>make him even more 'different' compared to his  peers, on top of all
>the
>>other issues=2E
>>
>>>As for not  being able to take care of their teeth well enough with
>>>braces -  >phooey=2E Anyone who has typical kids of teen and pre teen
> age
>>>will tell you
>>>its almost impossible to make sure  they brush and brush properly,
>with or
>>>  > without  braces=2E
>>
>>With both Alex AND Molly, I was known to ocassionally  corner them
>in the
>>bathroom (yes, as early teens!) and I would brush  their teeth=2E
>Molly did a
>>better job than Alex so he got it more  often=2E
>>  I didn't care how much they fussed, protested or tried to  avoid
>me, I
>would
>>give 'em a good brushing=2E
>>"Mom, I 'm old  enough to brush my own teeth" was the common
>refrain=2E
>>Do and good job  and I'm outta here was my reply=2E
>>
>>Alex tattled on me to the  orthodontist=2E Her reply=3F Good for your
>Mom, I
>>brushed MY kids teeth too  when they had braces=2E lol
>>Not the support he was looking  for=2E
>>
>>For those who don't know, our Alex has a double sharks row  of teeth
>and
>they
>>were jumbled and turned=2E Unsightly AND a messed up  bite=2E
>>
>>It took 4 YEARS of braces and 2 oral surgeries to get  them
>straightend out=2E
>>Now, $8,000 later, I still harp on him to take  care of his oral
>hygine!!!!!!
>>
>>Alex's teeth so bad that at  the initial consultation the
>orthodontist told
>>us 'I'll be upfront with  you, Alex may lose some teeth since we
>have to
>>shift/move them so  far'=2E
>>She also told Alex, 'Well Alex, you are going to be one of   Dr=2E
>Sue's
>>biggest challenges=2E'
>>
>>When he was finally done  the ortho had tears in her eyes and told
>me that
>'I
>>didn't even  dream or hope that his teeth would have turned out as
>well as
>>they did=2E  I'd have been happy with less than we got!'=2E
>>
>>
>>>BTW  Alex wants a new mum, he hates me because I made him clean up
>his  room
>>>yesterday=2E Anyone up for the job=3F :-))))) Why do we have to  deal
>with the
>>>teen angst as well as the  trisomy=3F
>>
>>There are time right now we're dealing with those  early teen
>'issues' right
>>now, just that developmental delay playing  with us=2E
>>
>>The older Alex gets the more it is apparent that he's  NOT
>developmentally
>or
>>emotionally 19 years old=2E It's like the gap  is getting wider and
>it's
>really
>>making it harder to deal with where  we are in our lives as a high
>>functioning teen trier and  parents=2E
>>
>>Michelle mom to Alex (19, partial trisomy 14 mosaic)  and Molly (16)
>>MichiganUSA
>>
>>
>>       Building =5F=5F=5FooOOoo=5F=5F  Rainbows
>>                   www=2Etrisomyonline=2Eorg
>>         Families Helping Families  On-line
>>
>
>
>---------------------------------------------------------------------
>-------
>Get  a FREE Web site, company branded e-mail and more from Microsoft=20
>Office
>Live![1]=20
>
>--- Links ---
>1  http://g=2Emsn=2Ecom/8HMBENUS/2737=3F=3FPS=3D47575
>Building =5F=5F=5FooOOoo=5F=5F Rainbows
>www=2Etrisomyonline=2Eorg
>Families Helping Families On-line
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
>************************************** See what's free at
>http://www=2Eaol=2Ecom=2E
>
>
>                  Building =5F=5F=5FooOOoo=5F=5F Rainbows
>                       www=2Etrisomyonline=2Eorg
>                  Families Helping Families On-line
>
>ies On-line
>


                  Building ___ooOOoo__ Rainbows
                       www.trisomyonline.org
                  Families Helping Families On-line

Other related posts: