[tri-med] Re: back to school
- From: NanlorW@xxxxxxx
- To: tri-med@xxxxxxxxxxxxx
- Date: Tue, 23 Aug 2005 03:08:24 EDT
In a message dated 08/22/2005 5:26:23 PM, BHASSANJR@xxxxxxx writes:
<< Is conservatorship the same as guardianship? We went through that
process back when Jo turned 18. Boni, I and daughter Mary are all Jo's legal
guardians, with his sister as standby. >>
Yes it is. In California, you either have to do the paperwork on your own
with some help from Regional Center or hire an attorney to do the main work. A
friend of mine did paperwork on her own and said if she ever had to do it over
again, she would hire an attorney. So when I did Ali's, I hired the attorney
and got it done with not too much trouble. Then I went ahead to do Dom's...Part
of the process is a court appointed attorney for the conservatee. So when said
attorney came to visit Dom, she asked him if he really wanted to be conserved
and he said, "No." I had already paid the $800 retainer, but I was not about
to go to trial to fight him on it. Attorney was busy asking court for money
for all kinds of evaluations and my attorney just stood and asked for a
continuance and we were given one. My attorney tried to talk to Dom's attorney
about
the reasons Dom should have at least partial conservatorship and she would not
even discuss it so we just dropped the petition. So he is out in the world,
totally responsible on his own for his own decisions. He has a couple of
companies after him for money they will never get, one is a cell phone company
that
was willing to make a contract with him for a cell phone he wanted because it
had games on it and another was a credit card company that has managed to take
a card that had a $300 limit on it up to $900 with extra charges. They will
never see those bills paid but the good thing about it is no one else will ever
give him credit. He is really a good kid, but he just doesn't get the fine
points of being a fully responsible adult. He has decided that it is good for
me
to go with him to doctor appointments and he does believe that I have only his
best interest in mind. For now that is better than nothing and I would not
consider being his conservator unless he initiated it and I don't think he
will.
He is not working right now. He lost the job at the Y, mostly because he just
lost interest in it and although he tried a workshop, he hated it and just
quit going. He has applied for jobs, but no one has hired him and there are a
couple of agencies that will help with job placement, but he really doesn't
like
anyone telling him what to do. It will be interesting to see what happens.
Nan-mom to Dom, 21, tri 18 mosaic and bipolar; and Ali, 21, autism, TS, ADHD
Building ___ooOOoo__ Rainbows
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