[tri-med] Re: US Alex update

Oh (((((((((((Michelle))))))))))))
I am so sorry!   I don not believe that he should of been blamed for cheating.  
Meeting Alex I believe he would never CHEAT and was just asking for help!  
Sometimes I wish people would understand our children and listen more to the 
parents who live with their child and know what they are capable of.
Last week Wed I received a phone call from Cody's teacher telling me that Cody 
had gotten out of the school building.  A fear that I have had since he started 
that school because they have wheelchair doors.  Well for four years we have 
been asking them to put an alarm on the classroom door, and for four years I 
have heard that "it will never happen, he would never get out of our building"  
Well 11:00 on Wed evening the director of Special Ed called our home, I did not 
speak with then because we were sleeping and our bedroom phone is not working.  
On Thurs I had a two hour meeting with the building principle and got alot of 
issues resolved plus there was an alarm on the classroom door.  The super of 
Rochester schools is sick about all of this and I am not finished there are 
things that need to change for our children and people need to take us parents 
seriously.  We know what are children can and can not do!  The teacher and 
paras were so upset, but it was not their fault.  I 
 do believe that the Lord had His hand in all of this.  Cody was not outside 
for very long his angels were all around him so someone spotted him.  But had 
he gotten away he would not of come back and goodness knows where he would of 
ended up.  But so many good things are now happening because he did escape and 
I give God all the praise.  Out of all bad always comes good.  
So keep your chin up Michelle I will pray for Alex (and you) and his teachers.  
Things will work out for Alex just keep believing that.
Love, 
Tracy mom to Cody
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From: "jwaite" <jwaite@xxxxxxxxxxxxx> 

> Well........time for a bit of an update on Us Alex. 
> We have the GOOD, the BAD and the UGLY. 
> 
> The good: 
> For my birthday Alex went out and bought me one dozen red Roses. :0) Talk 
> about surprised! 
> Jim was too. Alex had asked him about what to buy me as he wanted to do it 
> all 
> on his own this year. The two of them went to the grocery store floral area 
> and 
> apparently discussed and looked at options. They decided on a 3 Rose package. 
> But when Alex went back 2 days later to make the purchase (you can't buy THAT 
> gift too far ahead!) they were out of those so he had to figure out what to 
> do 
> on his own. He was stuck on the red Roses idea and went for more money 
> instead 
> of finding another alternative that was more cost effective. 
> They were lovely (still are but prob only for another day or so) but I feel 
> badly that he spent that kind of money. 
> 
> The bad: 
> Molly had a friend over for the night on her birthday, someone who'd never 
> spent 
> the night before. While we were eating dinner Alex was just off the 
> wall!!!!!!!! 
> Jim finally leaned over and said something to him in his ear. Later Jim 
> explained that teenaged boys act stupid around cute girls that they are 
> trying 
> to impress. However, Alex's social skills in this area are def lacking. 
> It was another example of an area that has a wide gap between Alex and his 
> peers. He just doesn't get what is appropriate and what isn't. 
> It was a striking example of another deficit area in the total picture of 
> Alex. 
> 
> The ugly: 
> Alex is currently taking Economics (which you MUST pass to graduate along 
> with 
> next semesters Government class). At the IEP in May I'd expressed concern 
> about 
> the general ed class and Alex's abilities. This is exactly the type of 
> subject 
> that Alex has difficulty understanding and relating to. His skills in areas 
> outside his general knowledge area are mediocre at best, he just can't grasp 
> the 
> higher plane concepts and make any sense out of them or how they relate to 
> each 
> other. However, the staff had reasons why they thought the gen ed class would 
> be 
> ok and Jim/I finally went along with the plan. 
> 
> Well, first marking period he was doing ok and had a low B. Until he totally 
> dropped the ball with a group assigned a group project. He finally had to do 
> it 
> on his own, here at home with me helping ALOT. Because it was turned in late 
> he 
> lost 1/3 of the point off the top. He passed with a C- in the class. 
> 
> This marking period he's had an E pretty much all along. There haven't been 
> any 
> assignments and a lot of quizzes and tests (Alex never has, nor will he ever 
> test well even if we study for 2 hrs per night and drill, do flash cards, 
> make 
> mock tests etc--he doesn't do much better than a D or MAYBE C). Then, during 
> the last test, which he had to finish in the library with another student, he 
> asked the other student how to do a math problem. He was turned in for 
> cheating. 
> The teacher talked to his case load teacher. Who sent Alex to talk with the 
> Econ 
> teacher. 
> 
> He told Alex that he could have him failed for the entire course for cheating 
> on 
> the 1 question but wasn't going to do that. That if Alex worked his butt off 
> the 
> rest of the marking period he MAY give him a passing grade. That he was going 
> to 
> talk with the basketball coach about Alex not helping the team out right now 
> as 
> he needs to concentrate on his school work more. 
> This I learned last night from Alex. 
> 
> So today I need to call teachers. 
> 
> To say I'm disappointed is an understatement. 
> I'm worried as well. Not graduating in June will be a nightmare in different 
> areas, the biggest of which would be embarrassment, esp with his peers, by 
> Alex. 
> 
> It could be a pain if all my work as a member of the steering committee for 
> Project Graduation will be done and my child isn't participating....which 
> would 
> break my heart for him, as I'm sure his would break as well. 
> 
> We'll see what happens. 
> 
> Michelle mom to Alex (18, partial trisomy 14 mosaic) and Molly (14) 
> MichiganUSA 
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