[tri-med] Re: Platitudes you hate

Michelle,

I agree with EVERY word you wrote. It was from your heart. I 
certainly don't think that God sits up there saying to himself "hmm, 
well today, I think I'll give this little soul to this family to care 
for, 'cos they are "special". This sets my teeth on edge too. I think 
it was Mother Theresa who responded with "well I just wish he didn't 
trust me so much", and someone else said "I wish he'd asked me first".

Life has turned out to be more stressful for me than I would have 
wished for. My GP told me yesterday, that there were things I could 
not change, and had no power to control, and that the only thing that 
I could control was "how you decide to react, how you decide to 
respond". I found it much easier to cope (even with thoughtless 
comments) when I realised that how I respond is what matters. She 
also told me that I was doing "REALLY WELL". I thanked her for her support.

I try to keep in mind, that for the most part, friends, family and 
acquaintances, are trying desperately to think of something positive 
to say, which sometimes backfires. I have decided to forgive them 
(for they know no what they do).

At 02:22 AM 29/11/2007, you wrote:
>I understand that usually people just don't know what to say, but 
>they want to say something.  None the less, my least favorite by far 
>is the old "God never gives you more than you can handle" 
>shmeal.  Very untrue.  If God is doling out lives, then thanks alot 
>dude!  I'm depressed, I'm on anti depressents, we can barely go out 
>to the swing set let alone actually have a life and do things, Faren 
>hates the sun, the sun!!  God's own creation, she makes sounds that 
>drill holes in your brain, I'll be living this life I didn't choose 
>for the rest of my life even if Faren does pass away, my marriage 
>has suffered, my soul is dead, blah blah blah, etc etc etc.   I just 
>can't imagine that God would put us through this day after day after 
>day after day.  Nothing makes me feel worse than when someone tells 
>me that God is testing me day after day after day after day!  I 
>QUIT!  Ok, now don't get me wrong ; )~  I am a spiritual person.  So 
>therefore,  I am trying to
>  find the positive in all of this.  It's not easy.  Not at 
> all.  But even if God didn't make this happen, it none the less did 
> happen and I need to deal with it the best that I can.  And, 
> hopefully with a positve(or as positive as possible) attitude, I 
> might really truly learn something from Faren, whom I do love 
> dearly with all my heart.
>
>Peace, Michelle, mother to Faren
>
>
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