I'm sorry to hear of your recent diagnosis. The initial shock of it is so hard to deal with. I have 2 things to share. First, do not make a decision while you are in your initial shock. Take time to really think about what it all means. Secondly, I just lost my son Caleb, our third child, on 8/24/06. He had full T13. He lived 48 days. Even knowing the outcome of our journey, I would do it all over again. You cannot imagine how much love you can have for such a sweet baby. My other two children, 3 and 5, are so proud of him. My daughter thought he was the "cutest baby she ever saw!!" Even now, after he is gone, the other children are fine. They are thriving in school and I feel that they have been taught such a lesson in love. They both keep his picture on the nightstands. They also send him helium balloons to heaven. I believe that we have a God who does not make mistakes. You child is not a mistake. He/she has something to offer the world. Keep asking questions until you feel you can make a decision that best suits you. I remember all too clearly how difficult this is. I will keep you in my prayers. Becky http://livingwithtrisomy13.org/MemoriesofCaleb.htm Building ___ooOOoo__ Rainbows www.trisomyonline.org Families Helping Families On-line