[tri-med] Re: Love and marriage and disabled kids!

I second all that Tracey says below. None of us is perfect, and 
dredging up the past only adds fuel to the fire and eats away at your 
soul. That's not what I meant by making a list of the good and bad, 
but hopefully to be able to look at the positive side and say, "this 
basically is a good man with a good spirit', or not as the case may 
be, if the verdict is that the relationship is not going to work, 
then making CHOICES as to how you want to move on with the rest of your life.


>Marriage is give and take
>not holding grudges - don't dredge up past arguments to make the other feel
>bad or rejected
>not one person being "better at it" than the other or knowing more than the
>other
>
>it's those little smiles and hugs
>encouraging words of thanks or congratulations on a job well done
>
>Communication is a big part of a successful marriage
>talk often and honestly
>talk about your husband positively to others - build him up
>
>David and I have sought out counselling (separately) at different times and
>I think this has really helped us both.
>

Jocelyn, loving Nanna to Tess with Trisomy 18, age 11 years
. 

                  Building ___ooOOoo__ Rainbows
                       www.trisomyonline.org
                  Families Helping Families On-line

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