In a message dated 05/29/2008 5:20:09 AM, mewildflower1@xxxxxxxxx writes: << I'm trying to figure out whether "sitting tight" is the way to go or not. Michelle >> Wade was never unfaithful, he was never abusive to me or the kids. He watched the kids when I was going to evening college and to my meetings and support groups. He usually was not interested in such things. He got his support from a six pac of "Bud". And after he got the kids to bed, he would hit the hay and get a good night's sleep. If I had been up with kids for several nights or someone had surgery or medical procedure and I had reached the point of must sleep, he would sit up all night so that he would not fall asleep, because if he did he could sleep through anything., so that he could be ready for any emergency. OTOH, doors could be falling off hinges, yard looking like a slum and he would never see it, even if I pointed it out. Our priorities could be very different. Mine were related to keeping up the plantation and his were whether or not there was something good on tv or did he need to run to the video store to get a movie. When I started working at school, it took him about five years to realize that I was really working and not just out hanging around for the free coffee. He thought I was working just to get out of the house...I was. LOL But I still worked hard and it jusst took him a while to catch on. I think reading the book Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus helped me understand our different ways of looking at the world. Nan-mom to Dom, 24, tri 18 mosaic and bipolar; and Ali, 24, autism, TS, ADHD <BR><BR><BR>**************<BR>Get trade secrets for amazing burgers. Watch "Cooking with Tyler Florence" on AOL Food.<BR> (http://food.aol.com/tyler-florence?video=4&?NCID=aolfod00030000000002)</HTML> Building ___ooOOoo__ Rainbows www.trisomyonline.org Families Helping Families On-line