[tri-med] I am no more special than the next Mom!

Ghee Thanks...but I only spoke from my heart and soul...sometimes opening my
rather large mouth where it should not be...but ghee thanks for the vote of
confidence...however, I only do what any of us would do had each of us on
this list been given 2 special needs children.  I am no more special than
the next mom, just a busy juggling mom like the rest of us on this list.  I
sometimes wish my life were more simple...like yesterday, Savannah and I
were sitting in the therapy waiting room waiting for her physical therapist
to come. While we were waiting, I overheard another mom talking to her
friend.  As I listened to their conversation, this mom was saying that she
was so busy because of her 5 children.  She began saying the children are
now 7,6,4,2 and 9 months old.  She was there for speech therapy for her 2 yr
old son b/c she and her husband felt he was not talking as much as he should
be, in comparison to how much her older children were speaking at his age.
Her friend, who she obviously had not seen in awhile, made the comment that
she had been told that this mom had quit her work and decided to stay at
home with the children.  She commended her on that decision.  This mom said,
"but I am never home, I stay busy all the time", and went on about how a
typical day goes for her from breakfast to bedtime with the children
including discussion about the children's soccer and cheerleading practices
and games, and having to car pool.  Then she said, "on top of that I have to
bring him to speech therapy two times a week".  I remember thinking to
myself, boy how I would like to have a simpler life like that.  Of course, I
quickly thought to myself that if I went through my day with her, she
probably would have fallen out of her chair...LOL!
Anyway, I wanted to tell her how lucky she was that she was not having to
come to therapy 5 times a week for a total of 9 hours between two children,
but I decided to stay silent and just thought to myself that although our
lives are so different they are so alike too b/c like me as a mother she
felt stressed and overwhelmed with the responsibility of dealing with her
children's issues 24/7, and even though our issues were different it was no
less important to either of us.  So, this reminded me of what I had written
to this list that all of our stories are important, regardless of how large
or small, how simple or involved our children may be.
I guess because of that I do not feel like I deserve any special praise or
that anyone should be in awe of me.  I only do what any of us would do if
you all were in my shoes.  Although I must admit that it is nice to know
that I do not walk alone and that I have friends and other moms who are
fingertips away or a phone call away that I can bounce off of if I need to.
I think we all need someone to take us on a vacation..of course if any of
you are like me, I can't hardly stand to be away from my children.  Not b/c
I worry about them, but b/c I find myself missing them terribly.
We all deserve something special in my book...not just me!

Ok off my soap box...ya'll take care.

Love-Deborah


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