I do not know Bob and I respect that many here do. I support that the truth come out, and hope that the story is indeed inaccurate. I agree allegations are allegations. So we can look at the Duke lacrosse scenario and see that the original story was false and the prosecutor is getting what he deserves.
I made a statement that if there is truth to the story, the ramifications were more significant than a mistake that occurred during the course of a couple of minutes of poor judgement. I want to clarify my statement and until the truth and story is resolved, lets assume we are talking in generalities.
This is not a story of two people falling in love who are merely 20 years different in age. First, it was about a 40 year difference. Second, the younger person involved had a horrible drug addiction. A person who is almost 60 years of age and hires a person who is 19 years old to work for him is in a position of power over that individual, and hence the employee (especially one who is drug addicted) is in a very vulnerable position. I can assure you that if anything close to this happened in any American company and it was exposed, the elder person in power would be dismissed. Now if you add to this the fact that the elder employer supported the drug addiction in some manner makes this even more clear cut. So I just do not in any way , shape or form do not understand (even if there was no implication of murder), how this boils down to two people who fell in love and happened to be 20 years different in age. After all the discussion today, I was not going to respond further but since my statements were questioned, i wanted to respond. I will not say anything more about this in order to respect the topicality of the forum.
>After seeing the post by jack, I agree this sounds tragic. I agree a few moments can change someone's life forever but it seems like if the allegations are true, it was more than a few minutes and that Bob Shell was on a self-destructive course. A 60 yo man and a 19-year having a love affair is not right, This woman had many problems and any 60 yo man who has a sexual love-affair in such a situation is tragic. Of course having a relationship and being accused of murder wrongs on a totally different scale. At 8:58 AM -0700 8/25/07, Jerry Friedman wrote:I have never met Bob, in the flesh. But I have known him through his writings and activities and I have always admired him for his willingness to share his knowledge and his ironic sense of humor. . When I read these news reports, my stomach sank. I just sat there looking at the screen. But, allegations are allegations and no more. Let us hope that we have not heard all there is here and that more information will explain things more completely. But, in any event, let us remember that life is complicated and we have all been in difficult situations, if not something quite as ....pregnant with potentially bad results as this. JerryPeople are quick to think this nowadays and I think its interesting. If I have an affair with a guy its ok. If I have an affair with a person of a different religion its ok. If they're a difference race than me its ok. But it they're twenty years older or younger than me than its NOT OK! Its sick sick sick! Seems a little arbitrary to me. Obviously this is a barrier which in time is going to go just like the others have. The last to go proably. Mark William Rabiner Harlem, NY rabinergroup.com --- Rollei List - Post to rollei_list@xxxxxxxxxxxxx - Subscribe at rollei_list-request@xxxxxxxxxxxxx with 'subscribe' in the subject field OR by logging into www.freelists.org - Unsubscribe at rollei_list-request@xxxxxxxxxxxxx with 'unsubscribe' in the subject field OR by logging into www.freelists.org - Online, searchable archives are available at //www.freelists.org/archives/rollei_list
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