Yes, that's what I've been saying. From: bjbecker@xxxxxxx To: mea@xxxxxxxxxxxxx Subject: [mea] Re: Wording Date: Thu, 16 Feb 2012 16:26:30 -0600 A reflexive is used for an object that renames the subject. Subject is ‘I’ – Object is prep. phrase ‘Jane and myself’. You need a reflexive here to refer back to the subject. J Barbara J. Becker, EditorMEASURED WORDS second helpings(204) 837-9680bjbecker@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx From: mea-bounce@xxxxxxxxxxxxx [mailto:mea-bounce@xxxxxxxxxxxxx] On Behalf Of Karen McElrea Sent: Thursday, February 16, 2012 3:18 PM To: mea@xxxxxxxxxxxxx Subject: [mea] Re: Wording Hmm... I think we're saying the same thing, here. I just was substituting a different example of the same error. A reflexive pronoun refers back to itself, no matter which person it's in. If it's the object of its own action, a reflexive pronoun is required.From: bjbecker@xxxxxxx To: mea@xxxxxxxxxxxxx Subject: [mea] Re: Wording Date: Thu, 16 Feb 2012 15:12:08 -0600He is 3rd person – me is 1st person – that’s why you can’t sub he for me. Myself is correct because it is a reflexive pronoun that renames the subject (I). Creating a compound does not overrule correct grammar. If the compound is wrong and ‘Jane and me’ is wrong – the fact that it is a compound doesn’t make it right. Sh’be myself. Barbara J. Becker, EditorMEASURED WORDS second helpings(204) 837-9680bjbecker@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx From: mea-bounce@xxxxxxxxxxxxx [mailto:mea-bounce@xxxxxxxxxxxxx] On Behalf Of cheri.frazer@xxxxxxxxxx Sent: Thursday, February 16, 2012 2:30 PM To: mea@xxxxxxxxxxxxx Subject: [mea] Re: Wording That was one of the suggestions :) I'm going to steal your 'broken MP3 file' comment. Brilliant. I may have to unpack my books for this one. Drat. We're getting new carpets and everything is put away so nicely... From: Karen McElrea <karenmcelrea@xxxxxxxxxxx> To: <mea@xxxxxxxxxxxxx> Date: 2012-02-16 02:25 PM Subject: [mea] Re: Wording Sent by: mea-bounce@xxxxxxxxxxxxx I hate to sound like a broken record (or MP3 file), but your compound object argument would mean it's correct to say "Jim made coffee for Jane and he." This Jane character sounds like a troublemaker, anyway. How about not even offering her coffee; just make one for yourself and maybe she'll take the hint and leave.To: mea@xxxxxxxxxxxxx Subject: [mea] Re: Wording From: cheri.frazer@xxxxxxxxxx Date: Thu, 16 Feb 2012 14:03:55 -0600 No, this isn't an issue in a document, it's an on-purpose language debate. I work with enthusiasts. From: susan.portelance@xxxxxxxxx To: mea@xxxxxxxxxxxxx Date: 2012-02-16 01:57 PM Subject: [mea] Re: Wording Sent by: mea-bounce@xxxxxxxxxxxxx I prefer me to myself personally. Is there any other reference to Jane? Can you say "I made coffee for both of us"? Sent on the TELUS Mobility network with BlackBerry From: cheri.frazer@xxxxxxxxxx Sender: mea-bounce@xxxxxxxxxxxxx Date: Thu, 16 Feb 2012 13:52:46 -0600 To: <mea@xxxxxxxxxxxxx> ReplyTo: mea@xxxxxxxxxxxxx Subject: [mea] Re: Wording That's today's raging debate among the word enthusiasts: I made coffee for Jane I made coffee for myself therefore I made coffee for Jane and myself OR I made coffee for [compound object of Jane and me] I'm trying to juggle a hair-on-fire deadline at the same time and I don't want to dig my reference books out of boxes... sorry to be so lazy, but this is fun :) From: Karen McElrea <karenmcelrea@xxxxxxxxxxx> To: <mea@xxxxxxxxxxxxx> Date: 2012-02-16 01:48 PM Subject: [mea] Re: Wording Sent by: mea-bounce@xxxxxxxxxxxxx Doesn't this call for the reflexive pronoun, since you're the object of your own action? You wouldn't say, e.g., "She bought a muffin for Craig, Jane, and her," or, removing Jane from the picture, you wouldn't say "I made coffee for me." To: mea@xxxxxxxxxxxxx Subject: [mea] Wording From: cheri.frazer@xxxxxxxxxx Date: Thu, 16 Feb 2012 12:16:03 -0600 Can you think of any situation in which this would be correct: "I made coffee for Jane and me" ? "PLEASE NOTE: The preceding information may be confidential or privileged. It only should be used or disseminated for the purpose of conducting business with Parker. If you are not an intended recipient, please notify the sender by replying to this message and then delete the information from your system. Thank you for your cooperation." "PLEASE NOTE: The preceding information may be confidential or privileged. It only should be used or disseminated for the purpose of conducting business with Parker. 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