--- Andy Amago <aamago@xxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
> Since you bring it up, do you have any ideas on
> where love comes from and why it never seems to last?
Sorry to be so lax in addressing this but my internet privileges were
withdrawn this week when I was caught trying to sell prison equipment on ebay
and set up a website where we could vote for a new governor. First, I don't
think I did bring this question up directly. Second, I think there are many
examples where "love" does last, and deepens - what often does not last or
deepen so well is sexual attraction, and this is a major problem [of
'acedia'] that no one really understands fully or has a solution to: the
answer may (at least partially) be Darwinian - that it is in the interests of
our genes to want to spread themselves as far as possible and a sexual
psychology where the law of diminishing returns operates over a long period
will be more conducive to this than the converse psychology where there are
no initial gains but always increasing ones. Likewise, if there is an answer
to where "love" comes from it will be at least partly Darwinian, but I am
open to the possibility that the answer is also in part "transcendental" and
no full explanation is possible. Lastly I think there is a great variety of
kinds of love and attraction and when people suggest love never lasts they
are usually speaking from a particular experience and of a particular kind of
love.
Donal
My book On 'Love and How To Break The Habit: A 12-Step Program to Quit Your
Babe' will be available from all good bookstores soon after I get out of here
Chopra Eat Your Heart Out
Brixton
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