AA: With humans it all winds up in the unconscious. Yeah, we love our parents but we can't stay in a relationship because we learned relationships hurt.
BULLSHIT!
Or, we love our parents but we drink, or are passive aggressive with a boss or have anxiety or depression or whatever. I know you don't believe it, but that doesn't change the dynamic.
BULLSHIT!
Cats are tiny, how could you hit a cat? My cat just today looked like she was going to bite the cord on the electric blanket. I touched her, literally touched her and said in a regular voice, what are you doing? Let's go, come on. She looked at me, all but smiled, and we walked out of the room together. I have NEVER had a problem with her. And I have NEVER hit her. Technically, yeah, I guess I can imagine a lot of things, but I'd rather not.
The consequences wind up in the unconscious, the thing you don't believe in. The kid straightens up, but the fact is, if you hit somebody, they'll hate you. It's that simple.
> learned to do these things when i was a kid and i NEEDED to learn. > You better revisit your psychohistory. Tell me what do you do if your > kid doesn't put his glass in the dishwasher for the 50th time?
Maybe the kid is telling you something. Maybe he's depressed. Maybe he's being bullied in school. Maybe that's the only way he knows to get attention. Maybe a lot of things. But don't worry about why he's not listening, just beat him and he'll do what you want.
Maybe he's a lazy dickhead.
doing some FUN interactive thing on a regular basis. Giving him responsibility he can handle and making him feel good about himself. It's an approach that's foreign to a huge chunk, as in most, of the world.
What about if he's going to step in > front of a bus?
Is he suicidal, is that what you're saying? All the more reason to stop with the spanking crap and start with the relating.
Or, it takes a man to be a dad, depending on how you look at it. Being a man means protecting the little guy, not terrorizing him/her.
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