[guide.chat] In Reply To: [guide.chat] In Reply To: Phyllis

From: "James Liddell" <james.liddell2@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx>
To: "vanessa" <qwerty1234567a@xxxxxxxxx>, "GUIDE CHAT" <guide.chat@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
Date: Wed, 27 Jun 2012 23:03:58 +0100
Phyllis;
I'll add my thoughts to vanessa's here.
I live in a small town.
For some reason, my mum's natural family - nieces and nephews - whom she help 
feed and clothe, ignored her during her last decade. I know how you feel - it 
hurts. You try to put a brave face on it, but it still hurts. They ignore me, 
as well. I could be walking down the street, obviously concentrating on my 
mobility, and someone'll stop me and tell me that my cousin just walked past me.
It doesn't matter how thick skinned you pretend you are - deep down you feel so 
let down.
Thank God my mum's adopted family, most of whom now live in Glasgow, were the 
exact opposite. They were, and are, like brother and sister to me, and, as an 
only child, I really appreciate their help, both for my mum, and, since her 
death, their continued concern for me.
As others have already posted, we're here for you.
Family are not chosen - friends are.
The words are just words, but from what vanessa, Cathie, Clare, Carol  - 
everyone - has said, you should feel the warmth of our affection for you.


-----Original Message-----
From: vanessa - Email Address: qwerty1234567a@xxxxxxxxx
Sent On: 27/06/2012 21:55
Sent To: GUIDE CHAT - Email Address: guide.chat@xxxxxxxxxxxxx
Subject: [guide.chat] In Reply To: Phyllis

Hi Phyllis.
You have all of us phyllis, sometimes friends are better than any family, i 
have worn your shoes so to speak where i have had many a time where they say 
sorry mum, i forgot, lots of years without anything, but this year my son took 
me out in my wheelchair, he really made me feel special, bought me my favourite 
perfume, a huge expensive card, bought me drinks all night, bought me 
everything on the menu from the takeaway shop, but previous years i had nothing 
off him, no contact, but it hurts when they forget, but we love them so much, 
my grandsons birthday my daughter begged me to go and gave me an invitation 
card and i went, my other daughter never gave invite for my granddaughters 
birthday party, kept saying there was a step, too many children will be there 
and many other turn me off sentences, so i enver went, but it hurts, my sister 
said why do you come here, your not my real sister and other hurtful sentences 
where i left and haven't been back since, i broke my heart, i never went there 
empty handed, always took presents for her and her children, we have same 
mother, never entered my head we were not sisters, but that was years ago, it 
hurts to let go, my children can be the nicest of the nicest, but can also be 
the worst and its then that i wish i was not alive, but then i met all of you 
on guide and you keep me going through all my disasters and i love you all for 
it, yesterday my washing machine broke and cost me sixty five pounds to fix, 
put machine on this morning and it would not go, the man came back out, he was 
a good honest man and gave me my cheque back, today just bought a washing 
machine, its been plumbed in, i have to wait until morning to see if i can work 
it, fingers crossed, next court is september and will be another one after that 
too, it is dragging on, we have to plod along, you prepare for a good holiday 
phyllis and christmas, as for the soup and kitkat i would love them both, i 
still cannot find a one handed tin opener that opens without the sharp edges, i 
have loads of tins, but have to ask carer in morning to open them, then when 
time comes i don't feel like it or have forgotten about it and as for the 
kitkat, it is chocolate phyllis, yummy yummy yum yum.
vanessa. 

-----Original Message-----
From: Phyllis Edwards - Email Address: phyllis.edwards999@xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Sent On: 24/06/2012 23:16
Sent To: Dawn Watson, Guide Chat - Email Address: dawnyhen@xxxxxxxxxxxxxx, 
guide.chat@xxxxxxxxxxxxx
Subject: [guide.chat] In Reply To: [guide.chat] Happy Birthday Phyllis

hi Dawn
thanks for birthday wishes, really a day that I wish to forget, nothing 
happened had a tin of soup and kit kat for dinner, then went to pub for quiz, 
no quiz just football, just had a present from our Carole and a friend up the 
road, nothing from the three children not even a text, must be getting to old 
to be remembered,
just going to forget today even started,

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