[bct] Re: stuff.

  • From: "Curt" <catucker24@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
  • To: <blindcooltech@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
  • Date: Mon, 31 Oct 2005 21:56:55 -0600


I know what you mean about reading the mind, my wife and I have been
married for 33 years and sometimes she does that sort of thing to me.  I
sometimes wonder if she has forgotten that I am blind or if she thinks I
can actually read her mind.

-----Original Message-----
From: blindcooltech-bounce@xxxxxxxxxxxxx
[mailto:blindcooltech-bounce@xxxxxxxxxxxxx] On Behalf Of Rose Combs
Sent: Monday, October 31, 2005 9:13 PM
To: blindcooltech@xxxxxxxxxxxxx
Subject: [bct] Re: stuff.

I do the same thing, very fast and very careful.  

When my husband and I were first starting to see each other we went to
some restaurant and he told me my coke had arrived and when I told him I
heard it he was a bit surprised, but then he listened and sure enough,
it was still fizzing.  

Now that I have a hearing loss on the left, however, I do appreciate his
telling me such things.  Thing is, sometimes he forgets to tell me
anything and then wonders why I did not drink my drink, or pick up
something he left for me or something.  I guess after 30 years he just
thinks I should read his mind.  

Rose Combs

-----Original Message-----
From: blindcooltech-bounce@xxxxxxxxxxxxx
[mailto:blindcooltech-bounce@xxxxxxxxxxxxx] On Behalf Of jeff
Sent: Monday, October 31, 2005 2:03 PM
To: blind cool tech mail list
Subject: [bct] stuff.

Hi all,

    When it comes to restaurant etiquette, I think it is only fair that
blind person be able to use his/her fingers to locate items on a plate.
do so sparingly but it is fast and so far, no one has commented on it. 
Also, I try to find a part of the meat where it has a part sticking out,

like a corner, I stab it with my fork and cut it off small enough to fit
my mouth.  I do this instead of trying to cut it all at once because
usually just makes a mess.  Someone on a podcast or something I was 
listening to stated that he always tells the wait person or server as
sometimes want to be called, that he is blind and could they check in on

from time to time since he won't be able to see them when they are
They always seem to be all to happy to do this too.  Another thing I've 
noticed is that if you don't identify that you are blind, the person
sometimes replace your drink or sit a new glass of your drink in front
you and you won't even hear them.  They are trained to do these types of

things without interrupting your conversations and it's better to let
know right up front.  If your meat selection is covered in a sauce or 
something equally messy needs to be cut up, please let someone else at
table do it.  You'll seem so much smarter than if you walk out of the 
restaurant covered with bar-b-q sauce or something like that.  I even
let my

sighted companion at the table, slap a little catsup or mustard on my

if I need it, although you could also ask the wait person to do this if
meal is a business lunch or something more formal like that.  I must
I will have food that is "safer" to handle when on a business lunch or 
dinner.  I guess that is a bit of impression management but I am guilty
charged.  When I am out with only other blind folks, I do everything for

myself and realize that we are all in the same boat.  Everyone has
that they'd rather not do and that others can help with.  I help my wife

with computer stuff and don't even think anything about it.  I just know

to do it faster.  I help my daughter with lids on jars and things like

She is small and, again, I never give it a second thought, except
when I feel lucky to be able to be a help to someone.  My sighted
probably feel the same when helping me sometimes.  I'll ask them and see

what they say.

Jeff Armstrong,

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