[bct] Re: stuff.

  • From: "Curt" <catucker24@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
  • To: <blindcooltech@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
  • Date: Mon, 31 Oct 2005 21:30:54 -0600

I too have enjoyed reading these posts.  When I dine with my wife,  who
is sighted, she will help me with the difficult stuff.  When she is not
with me, I will order things I think I can handle independently, like
sirloin tips, butterfly cut fillet etc.  I use the knife to help locate
what I am going to pick up with the fork.  Letting the server know you
are blind can certainly help prevent    that new drink from being
spilled on the table and in your lap.  
Recently we were eating out with our grand children, one of them spilled
their drink in my lap so I jumped up  so it would run onto the floor, I
hit my head on the lamp shade hanging down over the table so I
embarrassedly  sat down in a chair of coke.  It was very funny but
embarrassing. And my dog guide says, what is your problem?
-----Original Message-----
From: blindcooltech-bounce@xxxxxxxxxxxxx
[mailto:blindcooltech-bounce@xxxxxxxxxxxxx] On Behalf Of Jamie Pauls
Sent: Monday, October 31, 2005 5:34 PM
To: blindcooltech@xxxxxxxxxxxxx
Subject: [bct] Re: stuff.

Thanks for the last several posts on this topic including this one. I
appreciate knowing that I am not an inferior blind person because I ask
for a little help in a restaurant. Thanks also to Larry for creating a
list where the culture is friendly. I'm sure he will insist that it is
we list members who make the list a safe friendly place to be, but we
all know that the moderator sets the tone. Thanks to everyone for a
really great list.

-----Original Message-----
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[mailto:blindcooltech-bounce@xxxxxxxxxxxxx] On Behalf Of jeff
Sent: Monday, October 31, 2005 3:03 PM
To: blind cool tech mail list
Subject: [bct] stuff.

Hi all,

    When it comes to restaurant etiquette, I think it is only fair that
a blind person be able to use his/her fingers to locate items on a
plate.  I do so sparingly but it is fast and so far, no one has
commented on it. 
Also, I try to find a part of the meat where it has a part sticking out,
like a corner, I stab it with my fork and cut it off small enough to fit
in my mouth.  I do this instead of trying to cut it all at once because
that usually just makes a mess.  Someone on a podcast or something I was
listening to stated that he always tells the wait person or server as
they sometimes want to be called, that he is blind and could they check
in on him from time to time since he won't be able to see them when they
are around. 
They always seem to be all to happy to do this too.  Another thing I've
noticed is that if you don't identify that you are blind, the person
will sometimes replace your drink or sit a new glass of your drink in
front of you and you won't even hear them.  They are trained to do these
types of things without interrupting your conversations and it's better
to let them know right up front.  If your meat selection is covered in a
sauce or something equally messy needs to be cut up, please let someone
else at the table do it.  You'll seem so much smarter than if you walk
out of the restaurant covered with bar-b-q sauce or something like that.
I even let my sighted companion at the table, slap a little catsup or
mustard on my burger if I need it, although you could also ask the wait
person to do this if the meal is a business lunch or something more
formal like that.  I must admit, I will have food that is "safer" to
handle when on a business lunch or dinner.  I guess that is a bit of
impression management but I am guilty as charged.  When I am out with
only other blind folks, I do everything for myself and realize that we
are all in the same boat.  Everyone has things that they'd rather not do
and that others can help with.  I help my wife with computer stuff and
don't even think anything about it.  I just know how to do it faster.  I
help my daughter with lids on jars and things like that.

She is small and, again, I never give it a second thought, except
sometimes when I feel lucky to be able to be a help to someone.  My
sighted friends probably feel the same when helping me sometimes.  I'll
ask them and see what they say.

Jeff Armstrong,

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