[bct] Re: From the moderator

  • From: "tiffany black" <tifflblack@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
  • To: <blindcooltech@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
  • Date: Sun, 21 May 2006 15:56:32 -0700

lol. Wasn't mine. I just make the stuff that goes in them. lol.


From: blindcooltech-bounce@xxxxxxxxxxxxx
[mailto:blindcooltech-bounce@xxxxxxxxxxxxx] On Behalf Of Neal Ewers
Sent: Sunday, May 21, 2006 3:29 PM
To: blindcooltech@xxxxxxxxxxxxx
Subject: [bct] Re: From the moderator

Ray, Thanks for that.  You are very right in all that you say.  You have no
idea how many people have written to me offline being frustrated by things
that have been said on this list.  Sure, you could call them thin-skins if
you want, or you could stop and think if any of us have continued the
smashing of someone's feelings even if unintentionally.  I doubt there is a
mean spirited person on this list.  One of the problems with email is that
it is too easy to hit return and throw a stone when it might be prudent to
stop and think first.  Yes, I have been there too.  But, I try very hard,
not to go there very often.  Life is too short to spend any part of it being
unkind to others.
OK, who put that soap box under me anyway?  I'll stop now.
-----Original Message-----
From: blindcooltech-bounce@xxxxxxxxxxxxx
[mailto:blindcooltech-bounce@xxxxxxxxxxxxx] On Behalf Of Ray Foret Jr.
Sent: Sunday, May 21, 2006 5:15 PM
To: blindcooltech@xxxxxxxxxxxxx
Subject: [bct] Re: From the moderator

Now look, I'm not going to take sides in this; but, y'all, Neal is
absolutely correct.  I know what it is to be greatly dissolutioned with
people; both blind and sighted.  I know what it is to be deeply hurt by
people I thought were good friends.  I know what it is to be burned by
people in whom you deeply confide.  I know the terrible empty feeling you
have deep in your sould when the person whom you get to know causes you to
believe that you are their soul mate only to discover that they were just
playing you for a fool!!!  I don't know who did what to this person; but,
look, I think quite frankly, that compassion is what is called for here;
and, in equal frankness, it's a two way thing.  If you want to get
compassion, it's usually more effectively gotten if you first give it.  I
can tell you as a fact that e-mails can so easily lead to terrible
misunderstandings which can, in extreme cases, cause the loss of good
friendships.  Suppose we all just take a step back from the brink and look
at what's really happening here.  It's quite clear that the e-mails which
contained profanity were spoofs.  I must at once admit, however, that at the
first, I didn't suspect this.  However, upon second thought, it's just so
out of Rick's usual good character to say stuff like that that I'm going to
have, at least provisionally, to agree with Tiffany's assessment of the
situation; however, with the understanding that I too hope most sincerely
that I am wrong in this.  If Chris is truly hurt by what ever things have
been said to or against him on this list, surely, it does not help his cause
to go about spoofing other people's e-mails now does it?  Why, of course
not.  I must add, though, that I do understand that the utter desperation
and terrible emptiness which being dissolutioned with people can cause one
to do some extremely stupid things.  It can, and often does, leave one with
a terrible empty feeling of loneliness which can cause a person to want to
act in ways they would not normally think of.  Worse yet, when a person gets
this way, they also get to where they are even more empty and dissolutioned
because they know in the deepest part of their hearts that they either
cannot or will not do those things.  Chris, if you are still reading this,
don't go down that road.  If you don't pull back from the brink, it will be
even worse for you.  Let us not loose site of our purpose on this list;
which, I believe, is to talk about things related to the "Blind Cool Tech"
podcast, and just to have fun with each other.  Let me tell you my strategy
for dealing with stuff I don't like.  If someone on this list says something
to which I ever took offense, I'd tell them privately and not make a public
seen out of it.  
    Okay.  That's the first part.  Now, here's the second.  every one of us,
at one time or another, throws a pity party just because we're blind.  It
happens to the best and the worst of us.  I am not suggesting that this is
what Chris is up to; nor, you should understand, am I making excuses for
him.  If, however, there is something wrong, it needs to be dealt with in a
mature manner.  Throwing around messages like what I've been seeing of late
is not a helpful way to solve what ever the problem may be.  
Sincerely yours,
The Constantly Barefooted,
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----- Original Message ----- 
From: Neal  <mailto:neal.ewers@xxxxxxxxxxxxxx> Ewers 
To: Bct <mailto:blindcooltech@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>  
Sent: Sunday, May 21, 2006 3:26 PM
Subject: [bct] From the moderator

OK friends, we know that there is someone who feels hurt by things that have
been said or not said on this list.  Given that people's feelings can be
hurt by unkind words, I see no reason for continuing to pursue this thread
if the only thing you have to say is too bad good riddance.  Let's all prove
that we can be compassionate, caring people and stop throwing stones just
because someone threw one at us.  After all, it is a virtual email stone and
I doubt that any of us have been mortally wounded by it.  So, let's set an
example of kindness here and stop throwing stones.
thank you all.

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