[bct] Re: From the moderator

  • From: "Ray Foret Jr." <rforetjr@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
  • To: <blindcooltech@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
  • Date: Sun, 21 May 2006 17:15:04 -0500

MessageNow look, I'm not going to take sides in this; but, y'all, Neal is 
absolutely correct.  I know what it is to be greatly dissolutioned with people; 
both blind and sighted.  I know what it is to be deeply hurt by people I 
thought were good friends.  I know what it is to be burned by people in whom 
you deeply confide.  I know the terrible empty feeling you have deep in your 
sould when the person whom you get to know causes you to believe that you are 
their soul mate only to discover that they were just playing you for a fool!!!  
I don't know who did what to this person; but, look, I think quite frankly, 
that compassion is what is called for here; and, in equal frankness, it's a two 
way thing.  If you want to get compassion, it's usually more effectively gotten 
if you first give it.  I can tell you as a fact that e-mails can so easily lead 
to terrible misunderstandings which can, in extreme cases, cause the loss of 
good friendships.  Suppose we all just take a step back from the brink and look 
at what's really happening here.  It's quite clear that the e-mails which 
contained profanity were spoofs.  I must at once admit, however, that at the 
first, I didn't suspect this.  However, upon second thought, it's just so out 
of Rick's usual good character to say stuff like that that I'm going to have, 
at least provisionally, to agree with Tiffany's assessment of the situation; 
however, with the understanding that I too hope most sincerely that I am wrong 
in this.  If Chris is truly hurt by what ever things have been said to or 
against him on this list, surely, it does not help his cause to go about 
spoofing other people's e-mails now does it?  Why, of course not.  I must add, 
though, that I do understand that the utter desperation and terrible emptiness 
which being dissolutioned with people can cause one to do some extremely stupid 
things.  It can, and often does, leave one with a terrible empty feeling of 
loneliness which can cause a person to want to act in ways they would not 
normally think of.  Worse yet, when a person gets this way, they also get to 
where they are even more empty and dissolutioned because they know in the 
deepest part of their hearts that they either cannot or will not do those 
things.  Chris, if you are still reading this, don't go down that road.  If you 
don't pull back from the brink, it will be even worse for you.  Let us not 
loose site of our purpose on this list; which, I believe, is to talk about 
things related to the "Blind Cool Tech" podcast, and just to have fun with each 
other.  Let me tell you my strategy for dealing with stuff I don't like.  If 
someone on this list says something to which I ever took offense, I'd tell them 
privately and not make a public seen out of it.  

    Okay.  That's the first part.  Now, here's the second.  every one of us, at 
one time or another, throws a pity party just because we're blind.  It happens 
to the best and the worst of us.  I am not suggesting that this is what Chris 
is up to; nor, you should understand, am I making excuses for him.  If, 
however, there is something wrong, it needs to be dealt with in a mature 
manner.  Throwing around messages like what I've been seeing of late is not a 
helpful way to solve what ever the problem may be.  

Sincerely yours,
The Constantly Barefooted,
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God bless our troops!
and God bless America
----- Original Message ----- 
From: Neal Ewers 
To: Bct 
Sent: Sunday, May 21, 2006 3:26 PM
Subject: [bct] From the moderator

OK friends, we know that there is someone who feels hurt by things that have 
been said or not said on this list.  Given that people's feelings can be hurt 
by unkind words, I see no reason for continuing to pursue this thread if the 
only thing you have to say is too bad good riddance.  Let's all prove that we 
can be compassionate, caring people and stop throwing stones just because 
someone threw one at us.  After all, it is a virtual email stone and I doubt 
that any of us have been mortally wounded by it.  So, let's set an example of 
kindness here and stop throwing stones.

thank you all.


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