Hi Mary. Sorry for replying a bit late but I've been caught up in the
planning stages for a pizza party for a new resident in my building. She
moved in today and the party was tonight, and it was great fun. The thing I
really like about living in this building, aside from the fact that the
people who run this independent-living agency really do get it, is that
we're like one big happy family. I think I mentioned in a previous posting
how we always support one another through good and bad times. One of those
bad times was late last year when one of our neighbors' eldest sons passed
away very suddenly. I thought everyone really pulled together and was very
supportive of the family, and still are. They are Jewish and had a shivah,
which I had never been to before. For those who don't know what a shivah is, it is kind of like a visitation before a funeral. I'm not sure of the direct translation for shivah. Tons of people went, including my parents. I went with my roommate and his mom. Anyway, this list is also like one big happy family.
----- Original Message ----- From: "Mary Emerson" <maryemerson@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
Sent: Thursday, 17 November, 2005 9:59 AM
Subject: [bct] Dana, Jeff and Lynnette's Experiences
Dana and Jeff and Lynnette and list,
Your experiences are: Incredible and honest, and thanks for being so truthful, that's all I can say! I have mentioned previously that I was ridiculed and verbally abused as a child and teen, and the so-called experts thought I was retarded, which of course was their mistake; retarded people don't graduate from college and computer school and have a career, but I have gotten past that; the years and experience have gotten me past it. I think time is really a good healer; yes, there are things that will happen that bring all the memories back, and you guys have had some very rough times, but you survived it and as Jeff said, we're all in this together. Just being on this list has healed some left over anger that I had smoldering in the background. The support and friendship here have been so remarkable!
One thing that is frightening is to lose hearing in addition to being blind. I mentioned in my career cast about being deaf on one side; it just happened over a three day period; when I had it checked out, they said it's nerve deafness and nearly all of it is gone, and since I don't want to deal with cochlear implants I opted not to do anything. I had a cross-aid for years which took sound from the bad side and sent it to the good side, but it was more confusing than anything else so I don't use that any more. It's scary because we as blind people depend on our hearing so much, and I know that you with good hearing can hear stereo; I am just grateful for what I have, and can still hear the podcasts and do the mobility I need to do. I've had to tell people a few times that I can't tell where sound is coming from, when they say "I'm over here" or "this way" and I am more outspoken about that; I used to try to guess where they were when I really didn't know. I can get lost in my own apartment if I don't have a point of reference to rely on, like furniture or a wall. So, do some extra hearing for me and enjoy it, and I'll be very glad to know you did. If you love folk or classical music, listen to something for me, with good stereo separation and headphones, and I'll be glad that you can enjoy the experience. This list is all about support, and wishing people well and thinking positive is very supportive.