[bactttoma] Re: I will not be able to write or monitor this list most of Friday

  • From: steven taylor <steven_taylor10@xxxxxxxxxxx>
  • To: bactttoma@xxxxxxxxxxxxx
  • Date: Wed, 7 Apr 2010 14:31:20 +1000

The music was easy to choose actually.

I had all the available songs we discussed and so did the celebrant.

That was a relief.

We felt the need for a dvd because we're even sending to people who we couldn't 
invite and people who can't make it to the funeral.

We're all wearing smart casual, just what Mum would have wanted.


On 07/04/2010, at 2:23 PM, Elise Lonsdale wrote:

> All the very best Steven, My thoughts and prayers are with you and your
> family at this time.
> 
> Thanks for letting us know, however I'm sure the list can go on without you
> for a day and we'll all be hear for you when you recover from said hangover,
> Oops, I mean, come back on Saturday or Sunday.
> 
> Take care
> Cheers Elise L:)
> 
> 
> Hi folks.
> 
> The funeral for my mother is happening on 
> Friday.  No, I am not the celebrant for this one.
> 
> One reason is I'm not sure that I am going to be able to stop crying,
> another is legally I can't anyway for this funeral.
> 
> I am turning every single device off on Friday, and won't be able to write
> or monitor this list.
> 
> It's in good shape, so I'm not expecting complete disaster.
> 
> I am also turning off all telephones for the day as I am sorry to say, I
> need a day for me, and again I am sorry if that sounds rude or selfish.
> 
> Just to let you know what's happening.
> 
> Ok the funeral is being held here at a church in Melton and is an invitation
> only affair.
> 
> This was the only way to do this, because the church is small so we had to
> choose carefully who was going.
> 
> The only fortunate thing out of all of that was nobody who isn't going has
> complained to myself, my Dad or my Daughter, but of course, we don't have
> super big ears to hear what they say outside our presence.
> 
> The funeral takes place at 10.30 on Friday morning.
> 
> There will be 3 speakers.
> 
> My father, my daughter and myself.
> 
> My mother is going to be cremated according to her wishes.
> 
> As we go in to the church, we're playing a song called looking forward,
> looking back by Slim Dusty.
> 
> Once we're all seated the celebrant reads the welcome message.
> 
> Amanda is then invited to light candles for my mother and my wife and the
> service begins.
> 
> Photographs of both are given to the assembled congregation.
> 
> The celebrant gives a brief history.
> 
> I have to say, we found this part hard, there was so much to say.
> 
> Ok my father speaks first.
> 
> After he has finished, the celebrant invites me to speak.
> 
> I speak, then the celebrant plays amazing grace.
> 
> Then Amanda speaks, and boy the tears are dripping already because it's a
> beautiful speech she's written.
> 
> We sit down again and a song called True Blue from John Williamson is
> played.
> 
> Whilst Mum was born in England, this was one of her favourites of songs.
> 
> The celebrant then invites anyone else to speak, we're not expecting anyone
> to do so.
> 
> The celebrant then says the Lord's prayer over my mother and closes the
> service.
> 
> The family leaves first, waits out the front to thank guests.
> 
> Whilst we leave a song is played called time to say goodbye  by Andrey
> Pachelli.
> 
> We then go as a private family and witness the final cremation act.
> 
> At this final act, the lord is my shepherd is played by me on a trumpet.
> 
> Hope I don't cry and can't continue.
> 
> After this is over, everyone is meeting at my place for the traditional
> wake.
> 
> Amanda formally welcomes everyone and food and drinks are served.
> 
> No idea how long this will go on for.
> 
> Everyone is bringing flowers and we have a huge collection of cards and
> there is a book for all guests to sign.
> 
> We are not keeping my mothers ashes, Dad doesn't like this idea, and we
> agree with him.
> 
> So I will be drinking alcohol at the wake, and I'm  not exactly sure what
> sort of fit state I'm going to be in to monitor the list.
> 
> I will let the list know on Saturday after I recover from a hang over how
> things went.
> 
> Oh forgot to mention, we're giving all guests a dvd of the funeral service.
> 
> Well, thanks everyone for your thoughts and prayers and everything else.
> 
> Cheers.
> 
> Steven Taylor.
> 
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